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  1. Alishka

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    Hiya guys! I'm new around here, I'm 13 and I just joined..

    Urmm.. so this is awkward for me but.. as you can tell I'm gay..
    My friend has offered to have sex with me he is a male.. and he is the same age...
    The thing is I have actually... done a few sexual activites with him.. (oral) and.. now he is offering to.. well you know do it from the back.. I just need advice.. I'm tempted to say yes soo badly.. I've started puberty earlier than your average boy, and I'm really tempted from my horomones :/ Is it okay to say yes? Is it illegal? If I say yes.. what should I be warned about? Should I even say yes? Thanks!!
     
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    i dont think you should, i dont think its illegal but at 13 i dont think you would be able to handle the emotional turmoil of having sex can bring but if you choose to do it, make sure to have condoms and he would have to go easy on you since this would be your first time
     
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    Also I'm really sorry if this is the wrong category

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    Okay thanks :slight_smile: I've done my research lubing etc.. The only problem is the condom I'm waaaaaaaay to shy to get it :/ But before that I'm still deciding on wether I should do it with him or not.
     
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    You might have started puberty earlier than your average boy *HOWEVER* at 13 years old, you probably aren't emotionally ready. And the legal age to have sex will vary depending on where you live.
    My advice would be to wait.
     
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    From my research, he is clean from anything diseases etc, and so am I the ONLY thing I'm concerned is he does have eczema can he transfer that?
     
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    do you want do it?, like on the plus this would be a great experience for you to look back on if the relationship works out with him but how do you like your friend? i mean personality-wise?
     
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    Yes I understand all the waiting and stuff but honestly It feels like I've been waiting for over 20 years LOL. I don't know why It's just hormones messing with me.. I really want to have sex for some reason.

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    Um, well thats the thing I want to do it but part of me says wait and wait untill you actually have a *bf*.. But then again I still want to have sex :/.. Personality wise he is a great guy I guess? We have known eachother for about 3-2 years now.
     
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    i still say wait, in these cases hormones are NOT the best to go on lol, try to deepen your connection with him first if he wants to do it also, then go full-force in a few more years lol
     
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    Like.. honestly I've never had a Boyfriend I sometimes feel like no one loves me actually :/.. anyway Ill dsicuss that in a different thread, but yeah.. So I honestly don't know... LIKE I have done oral activites with him.. down there.. for like 2 minutes.. I felt guilty after but then a few days later honestly didn't really care? Is that normal?! We are bestfriends btw, he said he does want to do it infact he brought it up..
     
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    i think its normal, i think the guilty comes from doing something forbidden, in your case oral sex with a guy, i felt it also but wait, trust me it could cause trouble down the line for you, lol sorry for shoving this down your throat, the hormones will subside with time and become much easier to handle
     
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    Okay.. LOL it's just I'm really curious how its like to be penetrated and not to sound.. desperate but would do 'anything' to try :/ hormones suck lol..
     
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    lol i know but just decline and see what he says, plus are you "out" to anyone?
     
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    But.. I'm still having the consideration wether or wether not to say yes.. now if i do say yes where do I get condoms?.. I heard the cashier can't turn down to sell me a condom because its illegal? It'll still be quite awkward though.. to buy them

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    Okay I'll decline and 'test' him and out as in like having a crush I take it? Well he is an person thats online I've never met him :/ I really like him though <3

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    OOOH you mean out of the closet right? SORRY lol its 5:20 AM here.. I have freinds that know.. the only relative who knows is my aunt who isnt in the country.
     
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    oh dude, so you have never met him in person?
     
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    The guy who is my best friend? No we know eachother in real.. Unless your talking about my crush? Haha XD My crush is in the states I think :/ I really like him its this *special* feeling to him.. Never felt it to other crushes.
     
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    oh wow then, so your friend is the one that wants to have sex with you, and you have a crush? wow then thats a bit confusing
     
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    Yeah.. I'm just dumb LOL sorry I don't know what I was thinking stupid lust *sigh* LOL..
     
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    lol its okay dude, your young and your emotions are everywhere, this is a great time for you lol except the unquenchable lust
     
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    Haha.. I feel like we can be friends :3 Can I pm you?
     
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    oh lol you cant pm, your not a full member but i will send you a friend request
     
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