Patrick - I've been stewing on your post for the past day or so, trying to puzzle out what I hope will be a helpful response. My thoughts have...
Nerdbrain - You've had decades of straight training, cemented by multiple positive experiences with women. It's completely understandable how...
CameOutSwinging - "Men for sex, women for love" is most commonly experienced by bisexual men who are in positive long-term relationships with...
If you think about it, we are trained to value and admire male+female romance beginning at very early ages - before we can read, before we can...
As most of us here are fully aware, sexual attractions are not a choice. Although no definitive proof has been discovered yet, most scientists...
justrob - Congratulations on taking a tremendous first step. By far, THE very best thing I did after coming out to my wife was to fulfill a...
Nerdbrain - Based on everything you've said, I can't tell whether you're gay or whether you're mostly straight with a kinky fetish for submissive...
Your internal tug-of-war about bottoming appears to be epicenter around which the rest of your life revolves. From all that you've said, I can't...
Nerdbrain - The way you describe bottoming (not just here but in other threads and posts too) doesn't strike me as very sexual. It seems much...
When making any big change in life, feeling nervous, afraid and not-so-confident is completely normal. If you were embarking on an entirely new...
The letters were a good start and, in fact, you did get a positive response from them: your kids actually spoke to you in full sentences! That...
Well, there are quite a few straight spouses at the Straight Spouse Network who would love to tell your wife you've given her the greatest gift,...
Taxodium, Back in October you said your wife didnt seem to fully process what you told her when you came out. You said she wanted to continue the...
Ryan - Have you and your wife discussed, in detail, what your marriage would be like going forward? For example, do you anticipate going fully...
NB - Just as you now know it would have been better not to have remained so emotionally close to your wife over the past two years, in the future...
After unexpectedly finding myself single at 44, I found "living a gay life" to be somewhat different than what I originally expected. Not a lot...
Because finding sex with men is easy, I'm guessing you're looking for non-sexual ways of satisfying your gay side. Is that correct? Basically:...
The SSN also has a private forum. Your wife may need to ask to be added. For those who don't click with SSN, there's a Yahoo group for wives...
NB - Please tell me if my interpretation of your words is wrong, but it looks to me like the "real" Catch-22 is that, in your heart-of-hearts, you...
Nerdbrain - After my wife split from me, I retreated into a safe zone for several years. I tried dating, off-and-on during that time, but had...
