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Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by ShortButSweet, Jun 20, 2017.

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  1. LostInDaydreams

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    This is a difficult situation to be in. I agree with ShortButSweet - honesty is the best way forward, but I appreciate that it isn't always possible.

    For me, it's been slightly different. I became disinterested in sex before I started questioning, due to other relationship issues. When I started questioning, sex with my (opposite-sex) partner initially improved because I fantasized about women. That lasted for a few months, and since then I've not enjoyed it. This might be TMI (sorry), but I find kissing worse than sex itself, as I can't think about other things whilst kissing. Also, I've never been attracted to him in that sense, so not much has changed really.

    I hope you're able to find a way to discuss this with your wife.
     
    #61 LostInDaydreams, Jun 30, 2017
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    Feeling quite down today
     
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    Sorry you're feeling down. Do you want to talk/post about it?
     
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    Think I'm just having an off day/wobble and I'm super tired. Things are starting to sink in plus my husband keeps asking to come home and that we can work it out. I feel so guilty.
     
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    I can understand why you feel that way. I'm sure that in the long-term this will be the best thing for both of you, which probably doesn't help much right now.

    Do you feel that he'll be able to accept it with time? I hope things get better for you both.
     
    #65 LostInDaydreams, Jun 30, 2017
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    Thank you I just think he's really hurting at the moment.
     
    #66 ShortButSweet, Jun 30, 2017
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    Aww ShortButSweet I'm sorry you are having a wobble. I hope you feel better tomorrow. You are so strong and doing so well.
     
    #67 silverhalo, Jun 30, 2017
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