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Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by ShortButSweet, Jun 20, 2017.

  1. dreamingfreely

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    Geez it looks like offering a three some is a bargaining phase that men go through. I'm in the same situation and just posted about that in another thread. I think adding a third person is a disaster in the making and even though I keep telling my husband that I don't want that he keeps bring it up.
     
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  2. ShortButSweet

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    I just don't know what to do for the best. I need him in my life.
     
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    Do you think it's possible where there is a scenario where you split up but you stay good friends, I mean it may take a little while for the friendship to settle but in the longer term?
     
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    I've asked him if we could be but he says he couldn't bear to see me with anyone else. I know it's early days and neither of us know what is going to happen but I do want him in my life. At the moment he's hurting and we're both trying to find a way through things so I don't think he can look forward to the possibility of being friends because he's desperate for us to stay together.
     
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    That's understandable. I suppose at the moment you saying to him I want us to split up but still be good friends is a bit like him saying to you I want to be with you and if you want to sleep with a girl on the side we will think about it. To each of you that is ideal scenario ( well I guess his ideal would be no girl on the side) now you both have to work together to spring something in the middle of all that which can work for both parties.
     
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    We've broken up
     
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    Are you okay shortbutsweet? I wish you both fast healing sometimes things happen for a reason and something great could be around the corner for both of you.
     
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    I feel relieved but the pain is unbearable.
     
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    Aww I'm so sorry, if you want to talk I'm here. Even if you don't want to talk about that. I can't imagine how hard it is for you right now.
     
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    I'm sorry to hear that, ShortButSweet.
     
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    So sorry to hear that. It hurts so much. Xxxx.
     
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    I just caught up on your story. I'm so sorry you're in such a painful place.
     
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    Oh darling.... Please let us know how that went down. I have a feeling you are crushed. But, I promise you things will be OK eventually. My favorite quote these days is from Glennon Doyle: "First the pain. Then the rising."
     
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    Thank you RJay. It's awful and I hate I've caused him so much pain. Like I've said in previous posts we've got/had a stable loving relationship. I thought when I met him that would be it, the thoughts/feelings would go away because I love him so much but here I am again, longing for something he is unable to give me. It's heartbreaking but I have to do it for my own sanity.
     
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    Well, it sounds to me like you are being very strong. He will recover. You have to believe it. Life is a roller coaster ride, and totally unpredictable. Anyone who can't handle that is just destined to suffer. Consider this a great lesson you are giving him the opportunity to learn. You will both come out of this strong and ready for the next phase of life!
     
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    We are all here for you.
     
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    Thank you. I feel like I'm being steamrollered, he says there's a way that we can work things out but I don't see how. It's so hard.
     
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    (*hug*). Never forget why you started this. I know it's hard. You will get through this.
     
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    this is tough, but it's also a noble decision because it gets you one step closer to living as your authentic self. Sending you good vibes. ❤️
     
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    This does get better doesn't it?
     
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