What do/did your parents say about gay people in general?

My dad is homophobic, and my mom is disapproving, though half of her 6 siblings are LGBT. That said, I've been thinking about whether or not I should come out to my grandma when I'm in Florida this August. She always said things like, "Knowing how to do that will come in handy with your future wife someday, if you like girls."

She's 82 years old, and I don't know how many more opportunities I'll have to see her, so it's something I've been mulling over.

 

We were walking in a theme park once and came across a lesbian couple. My mom leaned down and jokingly whispered "So which of them is supposed to be the man?"

My dad referred to a very flamboyant gay man as a "fruit loop" a few years ago.

Other than that, I've never heard them say anything remotely negative about the LGBT community. They're ignorant, but accepting.

 

my dad is a bit of a homophobe....he thinks every gay guy is a "queen" with colorful shirts and a purse and act a certain way with their hands bent all the time. he says it scares him to see two gay guys kissing. almost a little kid really.
my mom was accepting about em. she had a gay brother, a gay boss that changed her life and several others.

 

My mom treats all as equal...when I came out she had no issues at all

 

My mom is pretty open minded, she doesn't mind homosexuals. My dad was a bit of a homophobe. He would say a lot of nasty comments... mostly about gay men though. That was one of the main reasons why I was so scared to come out to him.

 

My parents are pretty indifferent but act really awkward about it if I'm around c:

 

Before coming out: They are the devils work. When SSM was legalized in any state, my mom would say the devil was moving in. It's a choice, it's a sin, they're going to hell. It's a phase. Sexual deviants. Abused in their past. They can and should be converted (camps). Occasionally hate the sin love the sinner bullshit. So on and so forth.

After I came out: I'm not sure yet. I only came out to my mom last week. She still thinks it's a choice no matter how much I explained, she's praying for me, it's still a sin, she won't tell my brothers about it because of their beliefs (they are 8 and 11), she thinks I haven't found the right guy, she doesn't think my depression had anything to with it. That's about as far as the coming out conversation went. She did repeatedly tell me that she still loves me. Parents love their children no matter what decisions they make in life, but she can't really accept it. To be honest, she repeated it so often, it sounded like she was reminding herself.

 

when my dad sees a gay couple on TV its always "Vile filth, makes me want to vomit" or just bursts out laughing when he sees a gay couple passing by.

Feels bad, man

 

My mom always says it's not the gender of the person you love, but the fact you love them and they love you, and that they treat you well. She says she is proud of them who have the courage to be open about it (and that makes me proud of being her daughter).
My dad is quite the same, he also says that the gender doesn't matter.
My sister - same story(i quite often hear her say gay couples are cute xd)

So I am proud to be a part of this family!

 

I'm not out to my family yet (just friends at the moment):

Mom - She has said some very cruel things about gay people. How we have Satan in our hearts, how we shouldn't be able to get married or even have children, how we shouldn't be on TV shows because it makes the shows "disgusting," how gay people should go to church to get "cured." Yeah. Um.... yeah.

Dad - He doesn't really say a lot about gay people himself, but usually just nods/agrees with the stuff my mom says. I don't know if he feels quite as strongly about it as my mom, though. I don't think he would be happy that I was gay, but I'm pretty sure he wouldn't be screaming at me over it like my Mom would.

Brother - He's a couple years older than me, and sometimes makes comments like "That's so gay." I don't think he means it as a true negative against gay people, but I still hate when he says it. I think he (and his wife) would be supportive if I come out to them, but I've been putting that off.

So yeah, I grew up in a very homophobic family/environment.

 

My mom is very "pro-LGBT", but is kind of ignorant about them... The other day she said "So with surgery, you can actually turn someone into a real man or woman?" And it gets annoying, but I try to be patient. "Gay couples are just so CUTE!" And "everyone's a little Bi!" Are a couple of examples. I have to keep reminding myself she has good intentions... :dry: I'm really the only person she knows well who's LGBT/Queer.

My grandma had a friend who finally came out to her as gay, and she said "You know you're going to Hell, right?"

I told mom about how I overheard grandpa talking about how he hated "the gays" and she told me she found gay porn in his room when she was younger.

(In case you can't tell, we're from the South)

One of my Uncles is married to someone who is Bi, and another uncle said that if it turned out he fell in love with a woman who was MtF and hasn't had "the surgery", he wouldn't mind.

---------- Post added 27th May 2014 at 11:08 AM ----------

(*hug*)

 

My father says it's all good, as long as gay guys keep their hands off of him lol. And that the idea of their sexual activities kind of gross him out. I haven't ever really heard my mother voice her opinion on it. I'm not fully out - had a boyfriend once and they know, but back then I also told them that I did like girls, because I was still hoping to be bi (I wish I hadn't).

 

They are highly against LGBT people.

 

I heard my mom and my brother talking about trans* individuals, bisexuality, and homosexuality the other day when they were watching TV. My brother is against it all and finds it all weird. My stepmom doesn't understand why anyone would want to be with the same sex or want to be the opposite sex, but I heard her tell my brother that "it's not weird, and I'm convinced that they are born this way." So I guess that's positive...

---------- Post added 27th May 2014 at 07:29 AM ----------

(*hug*)

 

My mom has always said people have a right to love whoever they want. My dad, who I haven't come out to, says we're all attention-seeking extremists who want special rights to better ourselves over straight people.

 

^ Pretty well describes my parents. If you're familiar with Jack Chick and his brand of Christianity, they are unquestioning followers of it.

My brother is not the fundie they are, not by a long shot. (In fact, he's darn near agnostic these days.) But he's similarly myopic about many things and I have no doubt in my mind (based on the millions of disapproving comments he's made over the years) that he will find me exceedingly disgusting and ridiculous, were I ever to come out.

Not being "normal" sure is fun growing up in such an environment...

 

My mother is pretty homophobic and believes that same sex couples should be banned from films and TV as it's "disgusting" and "children shouldn't be allowed to think that it's normal"

She's also been known to spout out other assorted vile including the typical "Two men loving each other is a crime against nature because if it was natural they'd be able to reproduce"

My father doesn't seem to have an issue against gay people but he generally does make a lot of fun at the expense of gay people. For example if a man is slightly "campy" he assumes that they are gay and will start making jokes in a Kenneth Williams sort of voice.

My brother makes out he's pro-gay people but in reality he behaves just like my father.

*Sighs*

 

My Family have no problem with Gay people, but there are a few gay jokes thrown about now and then. There Doesn't really be any talk about gay people at all. My Mother has never once said anything like "That's Gay". Mostly If someone who was LGBT comes on TV or in conversation the reaction will generally be "good for them". The gay jokes and impersonations here and there do get annoying, Since some of them think stereotypically of Gay people.
Overall It's Good (For now, I don't know what will happen when I come out).

 

I suppose it's not too surprising then to learn that I also live in Georgia... I guess it's a regional way of thinking.

 

My mom said that lesbian couples look stupid holding hands and that gays are the reason God is punishing the earth because we decided to give them rights . My dad says he wished they go back in the closet. My mom says being gay and lesbian is a vice