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How old we're you when you discovered your attraction to the same sex?

Discussion in 'General Support and Advice' started by TinyBee, Sep 9, 2013.

  1. Deaderpool2

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    Mine was kinda ruined because someone a few years older (i was 13, we never had full sex) was taking advantage of me so he kinda stole my realization. However before then id never been attracted to either sex and i was certainly was not attracted to this guy. then jack rider appeared in eastenders and it hit me like a ton of bricks lol.
    i didnt come out till i was 18 though.
     
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    It wasn't until I was 17/18 until my mind was like "Okay, this is a sexual and romantic attraction to a female". I used to think it was like "oh, girl crush, she's so pretty, but I'm not gay"

    Now I'm in college, and gay. and it's great, because girls are hot.
     
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    I got married to another boy in preschool :lol: I really started realising I was gay around 11 or 12. I accepted it around 13.6 years old
     
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    I was 12 and started coming out when I was 13.
     
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    I've had attraction since I was a little kid, but it never hit me like a sledgehammer to the face until I was 11.
     
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    15 but it took 15 years longer to do anything about it.
     
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    13 or 14, but had a few unknowing signs during childhood.
     
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    Pretty much from the moment I hit puberty, so since I was 13. I never accepted it until I was 21 or 22, though. So I pretty much missed out on both the high school and the college experimentation period, and now I'm going on two years with a relationship and 4 years without a very serious one.
     
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    around 17 and denied it until 19, officially acted on it at my current age of 21
     
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    Same as above. Probably had my first thoughts at 17 denied it until about a month ago (19). Looking back probably 14 is my my earliest memory of liking guys
     
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    Discovered: 13.
    Admitted it to myself and accepted it: 15
    I did that too! Obviously I didn't know yet then.
     
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    I was around 6/7ish...I had a crush on my really close friend and I was in love with my 1st/2nd grade teacher. I know that sounds crazy because I was so young, but I looked forward to seeing her daily. And I absolutely looooved her curly hair :slight_smile:

    Not only that, I crushed on my female friends all through elementary and middle school. However, I denied my feelings once I turned 13, and it wasn't until I was 17/18, when I started to accept my feelings for women.
     
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    it was in middle school where for a short time i pretended to be a girl so i could take to boys.
     
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    I accidentally found out on my 13th birthday.
     
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    6, and came to terms when i was 16. took me almost exactly a decade.
     
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    I was in denial like redneck. I liked kissing boys at age ten. However, stuffed those feelings down because I was taught that it was a sin. They kept coming back up which led to self-loathing.
     
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    6-7years. I was also around the same age during my first sexual encounter with another girl. I say "girl" bc obviously we were not women yet, but the drive and desire were obvious. When it carried over into my adult sexual life the truth became clear to myself and everyone else around me. This was something I struggled with for YEARS-as I'm only now coming out of the final collapse of my heterosexual relationship. Although-one of the great things that came from that was the eradication of all doubt about my sexuality. Hope this was helpful.
     
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    First wondered at 12, admitted it to myself at 19-20, accepted it around 22 and just started to really like the idea some months ago! :slight_smile:
     
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    I guess everyone realized I was different since I was very little, since I was in second grade, I guess; by 9, I knew I was definitely not like the other kids and by age 11-12, when puberty hit me, I knew I was absolutely not like them either; since everyone was talking about girls and all I could think about were boys.