Invisible lesbian syndrome

Same here! I just don't know what to say to guys when they try flirting with me, it's almost embarrassing. :lol: It just feels... weird. Like they're trying to get something out of me, almost? And so I try avoiding a lot of their questions? I don't know...

 

lesbians are like unicorns

/end

 

Yes please what do you mean? I'm kinda really new at this, and honestly only have known like 3 my entire life, well that told me anyways. So please what do you mean, and besides myself. LOL

 

oh you've never heard that lesbians are unicorns?

that they don't exist lol it has to do with invisibility

but now it's ruined since I had to explain it ;(

 

I'm glad somene else understands! It often makes me feel like a freak because I see all of these girls who seem to talk and flirt with men so easily, while I'm just standing there the whole time thinking, "What the hell? How do they DO that? :eusa_doh:" I suppose that's just how I am, though occasionally I'll come across a guy who thinks I don't like him at all (even as a friend) because I don't always respond in a positive way to his advances. I would like to tell guys like him that I'm not so interested in men at the moment, but because of a not so good past experience, I'm not too keen on doing that again soon...

:la: <-- And wow, this is rather random, but I didn't know that this smiley even existed on here until now, haha.

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Oh, and I totally got the 'unicorn' thing. Surprisingly. :lol:

 

LMAO! Oh my word. That's awesome.

 

You feel this way because they ARE trying to get something out of you. Or into you...
Sorry, but that's true nearly 100% of the time with hetero/bi guys, even for guy friends, and even if they can manage to be civil about it. If they didn't find you attractive, they generally wouldn't talk to you. Even if they know you're a lesbian, that just makes them more into you, not less.

 

Oh you guys made me nervous for a while there, I felt like an obnoxious asshole with my joke that fell flat. The last thing I need is an ANGRY lesbian mob after me

Which is why maybe I shouldn't impose myself on others conversations. But it's my habit, my fatal flaw ;(

 

'sal good man. Jokes and sarcasm sometimes fall flat on the internet, which sucks cause that's all I am.


(&&&):thewave: These are the only mob like smilies, neither that frightening. You're good. Although seeing the wave come after me might be a bit terrifying.

 

ah the internet has a way of transforming my ~delightful~ and ~colorful~ personality and twisting it into a dry butthole. Sometimes I reread (yes, I know how to read) what I word vomit and go, merde I look like a total douche. But I swear I'm not!

Ya, I highlighted the ANGRY on purpose. But alas nothing chases me except 40 year old latino immigrants haha

 

I DO agree that even in a friendship situation, most straight guys hang out with chicks they find attractive (regardless of the girl's orientation). My friends are always snuggling with me, commenting on my physical appearance, or bemoaning the fact that I'm gay (which is fine when it's sporadic, but not so much when it's a drunken confession of love). I know that's not the ONLY reason they hang out with me, but I'm sure it factors in somewhere.

I'm like you though jinx, I'm usually pretty feminine on the outside (long hair, make-up, curvy, girly clothing that's rarely anything other than black), although I do love cargo shorts, work boots and guy's sweatshirts. In terms of interests and personality, I'm more masculine. I much prefer working with power tools, playing violent video games, and getting messy. I did do ballet for 12 years though...

 

Funny thing, bi guys seem to be even more flirtatious when you are less feminine and alternative. It does get complicated when they are your friends.

 

Dudette, you're totally my idol.
You saw everything building up from 0... not only that, but people like you who came out helped bringing visibility.

Little by little things to be getting better.
I personally think that my country is 10-15 years behind developed countries... or should I say progressive areas from developed countries. I mean... We just got our first Pride three years ago. But its awesome how some places are moving forward with LGBT rights. It sets an example to countries like mine that are further behind.

lol Never liked ballet. I wanted Karate...
Though Gymnastics sounds like fun. XD I think part of the problem that I had with ballet was the fact that my opinion was not taken into account...
I like watching it, though. I think people who get to that level of perfection (in ANY sport for that matter) is just ah-mazing...

 

Jinkx, that's funny, and a little scary about the two men who still stubbornly hit on you outside the club. The example you gave about the other two guys made me roll my eyes, because it reminded me of something else that happened where I work. It's that type of assumed possessiveness that's a turn-off, and sometimes makes me weary of talking to some men my age. I know women can be equally possessive, but it's just the way that some men are blatant and obvious about it so early on that can be aggravating. Especially after you've made your intentions (or lack of them) clear. It can be disrespectful and kind of sad, because the guys can be otherwise cool people... Plus, it's good to have both female and male friends, but it makes finding real male ones who don't try to pressure you in some way harder to find. At least for me. Maybe it really is unavoidable, though. (And don't worry about your ranting, it's more than welcome ...)

:lol: :lol:

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