Oh to be a normal height! I am 5'10" and have a size 12 shoe! Also, I can now speak to the chest/collarbone/whatever you want to call it tattoos. It burned a little bit, but was not horrible pain. I was prepared for much worse. I uploaded a picture last night if anyone is interested, but you really won't be able to safely see much I am afraid.
The joys of winter coming, being tall and wearing long sleeves. I use to do ballet in high school and was so tall for ballet I had to partner dance with the dads. None of the male dancers were tall enough for me.
Thank you for welcoming me! I forgot to add Tilda Swinton, Alexandra Breckenridge, Evan Rachel Wood & sharp tailoring. But yeah I've had this for as long as I remember and I put it down to not liking myself that much and thinking I admired others/wanted to be like them in some way - putting 2 & 2 together post terrible trigger crush(+ other unexpected ones) has been a bit of a shock but also like it all suddenly made sense
Aw, I'm literally still kinda stalking your post *awkward (hehehe) anyway I'm 5"9' and also all about shorter girls, 5"8' or shorter but not like shorter than 5"5' k...I'm way too weird and specific about things... and redheads totally melt me -_- I'm also too excited about long sleeves ... I'm like at the store every September first like were are all the long sleeve shirts at people, that's the best, all warm and the best with like being able to not show off tons of my body. I REALLY like button up shirts but I don't like short sleeve ones so this is my season and tattoos are great, have none but I like them... like on other people... especially script. Oh it's so funny how you can get in your head the specifics of what the perfect partner is, not to like sit down and make a list but you hit a point where you can be picky because you understand you haven't let yourself have what you want so maybe it's more clear what you want. And its smart when going from a relationship that didn't offer what you needed that the new relationship(s) you seek out are with more specific partners. Sometimes I realize how few people I've actual been attracted to vs how many I wished I was attracted to and I realize that if I get to the point where I'm looking for a partner that it can't just be because she's a woman, that she's pretty or clever... but that all the elements of a potentially fulfilling relationship are there. So me and dating lol...always fun in the past...being all picky is good though I think... I appreciate that you seem so patient and really thinking things over, I think that's so healthy and good.
Finally caught up with the chat temporarily! As another pocket sized person most women are taller than me, however i don't mind cos i can shop in the boys dept. I also love tattoos on women. Btw I'm too chicken to post a pic Anyway back to topic...Rjay when are you and L going on a crawl of the gay bars in your area?
LOL. Actually, she told me to go to the lesbian bar with the lesbian couple I know. But I don't want to go with them! They scaaaaaare me! I found out about a secret group for late in life lesbians in the NYC area, and I joined it. A bunch of ladies with stories just like OURS! So, just maybe I might be more comfortable socializing with that kind of group since they are in the same boat as I am. Honestly, I am sooooo intimidated by women who've been out for a long time. I really would rather socialize with and date(?) other late-in-lifers. Or turn a straight friend gay for me, of course.
I don't know.... years? A decade? Women who have had at least a couple of girlfriends already? UGH... It's something I am struggling with. I realize all this crushing on straight women is a convenient way to avoid actually going out there and getting to know gay women. See, the internalized homophobia that enabled me to hide out for decades really became a habit. I have accepted that I love women, that I'm attracted to women and not men, that I am gay as hell. But, it still feels awkward for me to be around more "experienced" gay women. I feel like a poser. So, now I'm starting to obsess over getting together with somebody in my situation... gay or bi for sure, but only recently out.
I was going to ask if you found talking to me intimidating but then I guess it's different because I'm not a potential date. I totally get why you feel like this but you have to work though it, just because they are experienced it doesn't mean they can't like you or that they will judge you because of your story. Anyone that judges you is a bitch. Get out there.
Of course, you are right! Just found out the NYC group of late-in-lifers are doing a lesbian bar crawl Friday night! LOL... What timing. I'm even free that night, but I'll probably be too chicken.
Ugh... I really just don't do well in large groups of people. I'm so good with one-on-one interaction. I'm afraid of feeling anxious and overwhelmed.
Ok so just talk to one person at a time, I'm not good at any kind of social interaction but sometimes you just have to push a little outside what is comfortable to find what you are looking for. Let's say you go and after half an hour you absolutely hate it, then you can leave. Why don't you pretend you are going on a pub crawl with all of us .
LOL. Yes! Because we all know each other. If just one or two of you could go with me, I'd be fine. C'mon, I know a few of you are within a 4 hour drive from here.
Because honestly you don't need us RJay, you are fabulous on your own. Just go with the intention of achieving going out with some lesbians, don't put any more pressure on yourself. You will feel amazing if you can do it.
I went to a LGBT Meetup in July. Right up until the last minute I told myself I could never go. I was too afraid. I have social anxiety and told myself I couldn't do it. But something in me said "do it" and I went and it was such a fantastic experience. I made sure I got there early so there was only one person already there and that helped. There's a saying that I always think of when deciding whether to do something or not: "Regret for the things we do can be tempered by time. It is regret for the things we don't do that is inconsolable". If you go out Fri night RJay.. .....enjoy!!!!!! I bet you won't regret it.
