Amazing! So glad it went well and their reactions were better than you expected. I think you have been really brave. (*hug*)(*hug*)(*hug*)
CONGRATULATIONS! We're all so proud of you. I want to cry happy tears on your behalf. And you know what, my family will be fine.(They're no where near as homophobic as yours sounded...)I think I actually might do it. I want to do it tonight! Though when I say "I'm pansexual" I feel like I'll get a look...a very confused "so you're into frying pans?" look. I think Imight go for it, just rip the band-aide off.....
Yeah, I actually didn't invoke a label at all in any of the 3 conversations yesterday. I said that Iwas "not straight." I admitted that I can like some guys, that I mostly like guys who are exclusively gay, but the straight guy that I actually like is so rare as to basically not exist. Mom asked for like a percentage, guessing like 70/30, and I told her 90% ladies 10% guys, though it's probably a bit higher than that for ladies. So, I'm not really sure what Icame out as per say other than that Iwould like a girlfriend and I want them to have time to think about that and get used to the idea before it actually happens.
I was thinking about taking an easier route out, and just saying "I'm not straight and I think I want a boyfriend." Even that's not really true, truth is I don't care who I date, if I like them I like them. But it would eliminate the "repress it and just date girls," reaction I still think is possible.....I'll figure it out.
Yeah. I think it's probably good long term to give them vocabulary, because words have power, but yesterday my goal was just to communicate the basic thing. I did not need to use the word "lesbiflexible" to get that accross.
whoo hoo sister(!):thewave!) i had a similar experience with my parents, religious and elderly, but you go lady. very proud of you and your courage.
Yeah, I'm probably going to just go with "I like boys AND girls. I can't control it, nor can I control the fact that I want to date both. I COULD very well still end up with a woman, but I also very well COULD end up with a man. I don't need you to be thrilled, or understand, but I'd love to have your love and support." I don't know that I need to use the word "pansexual" and explain that to them. Later, sure, but for now.....give it to them in smaller doses in other words. Like you, I also have some "coming out gifts" picked out for myself. http://www.amazon.com/HUMAN-Pride-W...ue&ref_=ox_sc_act_title_3&smid=A2CBTVCOIP5C2U http://www.amazon.com/Pansexual-Pri...ue&ref_=ox_sc_act_title_2&smid=A20SP5S88U5H4I
Aren't they! I actually thought about getting the bracelet thing, as I doubt most people(including my muggle family) wouldn't actually know what it means.....but I decided I needed some motivation to actually DO IT, so I put it on the back burner. Enough about me. I want to hear more details Katch! :icon_bigg
