What type of hug is your favourite to the person closest to you? 1) Do you like to wrap your arms completely around someone and nestle and embrace them within your arms? 2) Do you like another to wrap you up in their arms, making you feel more warm and safe? 3) Do you like a more mutual hug where you both equally embrace each other? 4) other: please elaborate. Also, reflecting on your answer, do you think it has anything to do with how dominant, protective or submissive you are in relationships or is it unrelated and just how you like it? I'd go with option 1 by the way. Happy days
I like more mutual hugs, or i just do surprise hugs where i pounce on the other person. Hugging is very frequent in my day so it varies how we hug. ^.^
I'm probably more the Type 2, mainly because I'm kinda small, so I like it when people wrap me up (*hug*) But that doesn't mean I don't reciprocate the hug as much as I can
-wraps arms around your waist- -rests head on your chest/shoulder- -starts squeezing you- -accidentally hurts you-
When I hug someone that I'm not 'close' too, I usually wrap only one arm around their back. The closer they are to me, the more contact I make.
I like hugs that leads to cuddling. And I think base on that hug preference of mine, I am very much protective. I like to feel protected and also make my partner feel the same way.
I would say all of them, but mostly 2 and 3. 2 because I am small, and most guys are probably stronger and taller than me, so being protected would be kinda nice :icon_redf 3 because I would also like to embrace him as much as he embraces me :love:
I'm not a hugger in the slightest. At best, I'll put one arm around somebody and give them a quick pat on the back, but that only lasts for a couple of seconds. It's also quite clearly the most forced and insincere thing ever. I'm much more comfortable handling people at a distance.
Im always the person to wrap my arms around the other person. because I'm almost always the taller one. I think its hard for the shorter person to reach around the other person.
I would say 3 leaning towards 1. I think the lean towards 1 comes mainly just from physics. I'm a big, tall sturdy guy and most of the people I encounter are smaller than I am. In fact the only person I've ever dated that was bigger than I was this mammoth weight lifter from San Fran--seriously deltoids the size of your head but gentle like a kitten. With him I suppose I went 2--it was a nice change. The other thing that comes to mind with respect to hugging is that while I hug pretty freely with people I am close to I'm not really comfortable hugging people I am not close with. This wouldn't be an issue except I seem to give off a vibe that I am comfortable with this. I'm pretty much the only person in my office that clients regularly hug at the end of their meetings--oftentimes the women will kiss me on the cheek--I appreciate the sentiment but it really does make me a little uncomfortable.
Ideally 3, sometimes 1, I like 2 as well but I have to be careful with that, because some people (usually those that don't know you but have little respect for personal space/comfort regardless) will hug you ridiculously hard. Most people would find that forceful type of hug unpleasant, for me it's actually painful with my achy joints as they are. In a romantic context it would be nice to have a hug were you sort of switch roles during it, like each takes turns to be the main hugger. Of course this is mostly speculation on my part as I have limited experience of hugging, aside from a few family members and friends. I don't know about how much it reflects dominance or submission to be honest. From my perspective, protectiveness perhaps, I can see myself wanting to hug someone protectively. But there's plenty of practical reasons as others have mentioned why people hug the way they do. Also, the person doing most of the hugging might not necessarily be the 'dominant' one in all cases; they may be hugging in such a way because they know the other person expects it for example. Here, have some internet hugs: (*hug*) (*hug*) (*hug*)
I have rarely hugged or been hugged, offline. And when it is done, it usually tends to be more like #3. Ideally, I'm down for all three types though. If I'm with somebody that I enjoy being around, I want to be able to show that. Not just with my facial or bodily expressions, but my words and actions. Some days, I'll be the one to spoil you with the hugs, rubs, and kisses, and maybe other days, you'll be the one to spoil.
Wasn't really a hugger as a teenager but right now I'm totally number 2 cause I'm super small compared to everyone I hug, I'll try to do 3 no matter the size of the person I'm hugging but I'm also occasionally a number 1 hugger.
I'm not. I prefer to shake someone's hand or do a fist bump, even if they're my family. Even if it's my mom!