This is my new pride ring. I wear this ring all the time except when I’m around my family of origin. I’d like it if I didn’t have to take it off. I think my sister would be supportive but I’m not sure. Any advice? I assume doing it as a text is not a good idea. Is it best to talk to her in person? What if she doesn’t react well?
Yes I would come out to her in person one on one. Try to be positive and direct in order to give a good impression. If you're anxious and uptight, it may make her feel insecure and defensive. It's good news, so present it that way. Also be prepared for many questions that could be uncomfortable or personal. Think ahead of time what answers you are comfortable to give and how you would communicate them. Lastly don't go in with any exceptions. The goal is to come out and see if she can accept you. Anything good after that is a bonus. If she can't accept you then it's on her. You can't control people and how they will react. Just walk away until she decides to become more amenable. Sidenote: Your ring is a symbol to give you courage if I'm not mistaken. Maybe you can get another symbol like a coin, trinket, or tattoo that can easily be concealed when you feel like you can't wear the ring.
Some people write a letter if they can't work up the nerve but doing it in person is probably better. Either way, Good luck!
Talked to her today. Was delayed because I have a sinus infection and have been resting a lot. She was supportive, didn’t have many questions. A family member on her husband’s side is gay so I think she’s used to being an ally. She is Catholic and when I brought up that the church would not approve she said there’s a lot she disagrees with them on and she goes to church for the community. It was nice. Still recovering from my infection so there’s that but it was a good conversation. Thanks for all your support.
Came out to my other sister yesterday. Same deal, calm conversation, she thanked me for telling her as my other sister did. It went well.
I did have to listen to Brave by Sara Bareilles on repeat both times before I could have the conversation. But once I worked up the nerve, they were fine with it. No drama.
