Were you interested in the opposite sex before you knew you were gay?

I think that I tried to be interested in girls for a while, though I don't think I ever truly was...I mean I had a girlfriend for around 9 months, and even though we made the 'cutest couple ever' as my friends (only the girls, not the guys) called it, I felt absolutely nothing for her, when we shared our first kiss I felt nothing, it wasn't at all romantic or anything...After I broke it off with her, she was extremely emotional, which I didn't understand; I think she loved me even though I really felt no emotions for her. Throughout that whole time that I was with her I really was questioning myself, and I kind of realized that I felt little interest in girls, so yeah, that is pretty much what brought me here...

 

I remember being physically attracted to girls before I knew I was gay. I always have, I guess, but the earliest I remember is 5th grade.

 

I can't say I ever was. Through middle school my friends would point hot girls walking by, and I'd just sit there nodding, not really understanding why they were hot. I always thought I was just late to the game or something. But in high school, I not only discovered I was late, but I was batting for the other team too! It definitely took me awhile to clue into the fact that I'm gay.

 

xequar - that pretty much echoes my experience - always found guys physically more interesting than girls - but denied everything and tried to be straight. Of course, religion also put the brakes on anything physical...

As others have said, the "focusing on the guy" in porn was a part of the realisation, as was checking out guys generally - despite then telling myself it was wrong to do so.

Religion has a lot to answer for (at least in my case)

Halpert - that's me too - spent a long time wondering why I didn't "get it" when mates were checking out women...

 

Ive always liked boys, yes. Before i knew i was gay i would "sneak peeks" in the public pool locker room i went to every week for swimming lessons.

Thats another repressed thought i just gained back. I sure repressed my gay childhood ALOT

 

same XD
I went to the swimming pool when I was young, got dressed VERY quickly (shy :3) and came out to see someone streaking.
I was 6, so I didn't understand gay or even straight relationships. however, I was very curious :lol:

 

>>>I can't say I ever was. Through middle school my friends would point hot girls walking by, and I'd just sit there nodding, not really understanding why they were hot. I always thought I was just late to the game or something.

I was there, too. But the weird thing is that no GUY really knocked me over, either. I remember when all the teen magazines annoited Kirk Cameron the new hot guy on TV. And to this day, I don't have any idea what they were talking about.

Lex

 

i've never been interested in the opposite sex (apart from friendship ) i've always been gay

 

I guess when I see a nice looking guy, I'll enjoy the view but nothing else, I love rugby players even now that I'm sure I am gay, but it is more for the love of the game.
For me guys are like art pieces in a museum, touch it with the eyes, not the hands, and that is enough for me.
But when I see a good looking girl, on theother hand...
That's another story...

 

I'm sort of having the same questions now. I've dated two guys, but never felt anything for either of them. I never really had crushes either, which sort of made me freak out. Except now there's a female friend of mine who I'm pretty sure I really like, and I'm still not sure whether I'm gay or asexual or straight.

Except now that I've been thinking about it for a while the idea of dating a guy is much less appealing, while girls are a much more interesting idea.

 

Yes, I always was.

But I tried to suppress it.

 

Yep, I was always interested in the opposite gender. I've had sex with quite a few girls, I'm not sure what changed.

 

Yeah. I liked girls. I thought they were cute. I still do. But it's mostly an emotional thing when it comes to girls, since I can't find any attraction to female bodies apart from their faces.

But it's strange. It would seem as though I've repressed (and subsequently remembered) a few childhood memories that clearly scream "GAY"... I wonder why the heck it took me so long to figure out who I am...

 

Before I came out I did try to pursue heterosexual relationships on a few occasions. I did it for the companionship alone, just was not interested in the sex.

Like Lex mentioned mentioned I did watch porn and the fact that I was more interested in man should have tipped me off. Honestly it could have the hottest woman and ugly man and I would not be interested in it at all. I did watch lesbian for, and this one is interesting. When I would see two women having sex I would fantasize that I was with another man.

What changed when I came out was that I no longer suppress my sex drive and now actually pursue it. I've not ben successful so far and in a few moments of weakness I have nearly replied to a hook up add on craigslist. I would have never thought of doing something like that with a woman. So my libido has increased because I allow myself to experience it.

 

Nah, never been into boys. Tried to like 'em, failed miserably. I claimed to everyone around me that I would just never have a relationship. Then it kind of hit me that I'd been trying to suppress my love of women.

 

I liked quite a few boys.

Idk what really changed that. Possibly the fact that I'm older now and most of my friends are having sex and I don't really want to have sex (with a guy). Or now that I'm older it's more common to have a real relationship. Who knows?

Idk how much I'm interested in men. If I even am?

 

I've spent most of my years being "straight", yet never being interested in guys, and until recently trying not to notice how amazingly hot some girls are...... then I gave in. Yet after thinking I was straight while having a rather significant attraction to chicks the whole sexuality thing is still pretty confusing! All I can say is, so far, never met a guy I wanted to be in a relationship with.... met rather a few girls I would love to spend every minute with and do things with that I wouldn't want to if I were straight ; ) but I don't like having to chose a label. Anyway, I have only come out to a few people, who I told I was gay... then the rest *and a majority but still not many* guessed/asked if I was gay and I just said yes. But living in the closet where there are no gay poeple and spending a lot of time in a school I hate with people I don't get on with, are all conservative and straight does not really allow one to explore ones sexuality much! But, from the evidence, I doubt I'm "straight" whatever I used to try to belive ; ).

 

i thought i did, but now that i fully realize im gay, i know that it's purely emotional kind of feelings, not physical at all.

 

Ewee. No.