Wanting a Dominant role?

*cough* orly? ;0

Psh, guuurl... You are not butting in. We want to know what you think! And dirty thoughts are welcome!

 

I'd hope so, based on what I've read. xD

Y'know, before this thread and actually reading about any of this, I always thought dominant and submissive roles were some type of...S&M thing. I was WAY off. :lol:

 

Actually, it can be. But it's also a relationship thing. For example, if a dominant and submissive woman were to go out to dinner, the dominant woman would be the one to offer to pay. Or if the two were to be driving, the dominant woman would be the one behind the wheel. But it's not always like this. It's just how a lot of people see it.

I was in a relationship a lot like that. But it drove me crazy that my girlfriend (now ex) refused to let me pay for any of our meals. I mean gosh, I wanted to treat her too. :/

 

That actually sounds pretty nice, to be honest. P: But then again, I'd be driven crazy too if I couldn't pay for at least one meal. Hell, something small like McDonald's would work.

 

I generally like to be the one in control, paying for things, etc, but it can be sexy as hell when the other one suddenly takes control for a bit. I think that it just requires balance

 

Which is exactly fine with me! I'm a versatile-submissive. Basically I want a partner who prefers to be dominant in and out of bed, but also finds it somewhat appealing if I were to take control once in a blue moon.

 

Exactly, so ideally, it works best if have a girl who has a strong enough personality to take charge if she wants to but doesn't mind getting spoiled or whatever most of the time. and a girl who wants to take care of things and be the "dominant" one but doesn't mind giving up control every once in a while

 

I love to be spoiled, not because I love gifts and material things, but because the thought that my lover feels the need to spoil me makes me happy. I don't care if they made everything they got me, it's the thought that counts. <3 But I also love to spoil the other person. I remember spending $160 on my ex girlfriend. She got upset that I spent money on her, even though she spent over $800 on me. >_>

 

Hurray for dominant introverts! Glad to know I'm not alone with these crazy (and delicious) thoughts

 

REALLY?! All these dominant ladies must have been creeping in the shadows. >_> I'm so glad they actually exist on here.

*ahem* :icon_redf

 

l am also a member of the rare "sometimes LOUD for no apparent reason and LOVING IT" introvert species lol.

 

NO! We missed you! D:

EDIT: So you wouldn't want your girlfriend to buy you anything at all? Not even a birthday present? o.o

 

right!
im the same way
i love to do things for people , like helping and stuff.
i've always loved to pull the weight

like my ex said
"well at least your respectful"
because im not into BDSM like she is. i could never choke , slap , hit , spank or tie up a girl. the only thing i'll really is bite....but softly

 

yeah same here!

 

BDSM has it's own types of things. You don't necessarily have to hurt someone. And omg, I cannot understand how anyone would like to be choked. Like damn, I want to breathe. D:

Awww! That's so sweet! XD I'm the same way sometimes. Like when Christmas comes around, I always buy people stuff and never expect anything in return. I just love to see someone's face light up when they open a gift. :3 But in a relationship, I've always tried to buy nice things for the person I was with. They'd accept the gifts, but they would always have to out-do me in some way. :/

 

yeah but either she's into that weird sexual stuff like that and choking...from the videos i've seen , they dont put a lot of pressure it seems...wow tmi

 

I like light BDSM as well. I remember I was Googling BDSM examples one time and the stuff I found... oh my word. How could anyone... just no. Choking seems to be popular. >_>

But you seem so nice and caring! That's definitely a wonderful trait to have.