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Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by bookreader, Dec 2, 2015.

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  1. Mirko

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    Hi there! I think all you really need to do is to let Jackson know how you feel. If you want to stay as friends and continue the friendship with him, you have a perfect way into the conversation/chat with him.

    Make sure though that you know where the boundaries are when it comes to having friendships. Having a flirtatious friendship can lead to you leading him on, which would not be fair to him as you would essentially send two conflicting messages to him.
     
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    Um, Jackson and I are in high school. And yes, I do consider being long term friends with him.

    ---------- Post added 23rd Dec 2015 at 09:14 PM ----------
    Yeah, you have a point. I'm pretty sure he'll tell me if I'm leading him on. When I think of a flirtatious relationship, I think of it as playfulness, nothing serious. Like one time, he kept taking my beanie and i considered that as flirting.
     
    #122 bookreader, Dec 23, 2015
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    @bookreader

    I had a similar experience myself the past year. I don't want to write my whole story out, but I'll summarize bits. You can read my other posts for further info.

    I developed a strong affection for my friend Travis whom I had lived in the same complex on campus. I mean it wasn't flirtatious, just affectionate/bromance somewhat. We hugged a lot and close and physical. A few "I Love yous..."

    I mean I didn't get into a relationship with him because he's straight for the most part since he's been with girls, though, he told me he was bi curious in high school. But I still see some traces of bi curious.

    It wasn't really serious it was more affectionate and some bromance maybe a borderline bi.

    Your experience with Jackson might be the same or different than mine. Mine wasn't serious just affectionate/bromance, yours might be affectionate with flirting.
     
    #123 ECMember, Dec 23, 2015
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    Yeah, it doesn't have to be serious, just affectionate with flirting. Honestly, I just want both of us to be happy.
     
    #124 bookreader, Dec 24, 2015
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    Just communicate well with Jackson. I mean both you guys need to communicate well. Communication is the key to any relationship.
     
    #125 ECMember, Dec 26, 2015
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    Update (sort of): I told him how I like him, but I don't want a relationship and we can have a flirtatious friendship. I asked him if he's okay with that and he said yeah. Later on, we had a funny convo about school, which I enjoyed.
     
    #126 bookreader, Dec 26, 2015
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    Good for you! I'm glad Jackson turned out to be very understanding.
     
    #127 Ram90, Dec 27, 2015
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    Thanks. Although I'm relaxing, I can't wait to see his pretty face again.
     
    #128 bookreader, Dec 27, 2015
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    That's great you and Jackson have reached some understanding. Just have good communication. That's how any relationship can have problems if there isn't good communication.
     
    #129 ECMember, Dec 27, 2015
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    Good for you! :eusa_clap:icon_bigg
    I'm going through how you started out right now with this girl, except I'm 99% sure she's straight. Doing what you did was really brave, I would have chickened out right away!
     
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    Is it possible to be over Jackson? I haven't really talked to him. He did wish me a happy birthday. And he pulled the flag off my waist.
     
    #131 bookreader, Jan 7, 2016
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    Do you feel like you're over him? Are you pulling away, or is he?

    If it's him, he might need some distance to deal with the fact that you don't want a relationship. It can be hard to be around someone you have feelings for.
     
    #132 cakepiecookie, Jan 7, 2016
  13. bookreader

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    I feel like I'm over him. And I'm pulling away from him. I just don't feel no spark.
     
    #133 bookreader, Jan 7, 2016
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    Over time crushes fade away if you do not nourish them and take them to the next level. You've chosen to be friends with Jackson, so you've gotten what you wanted, non?
     
    #134 SiennaFire, Jan 7, 2016
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    Yeah, I got what I wanted.
     
    #135 bookreader, Jan 7, 2016
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    Update time: I haven't really spoken to him. If we do speak, it's just a few words. On Friday, this happened and it still confuses me. In PE, I was walking the track and he calls my name. He then asks me if I like any of the guys in that class. I said no to all of his choices and walked away, a bit irritated. After changing back into my regular clothes, I was leaving the locker room and he was in front of me and turned around. He then proceeds to hug me and told me to have a great weekend and not to die. I honestly feel like he still likes me.
     
    #136 bookreader, Feb 15, 2016
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    Book reader: I just joined and I saw your thread, so I'm hoping that you and him are still friends. Me, I'm a 13 year old MtF (i think) and my best friend knows, so he calls me his Girlfriend. Whatever happens, but make sure you'll be friends first.
     
    #137 LizSibling13, Feb 15, 2016
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    Yeah, Jackson and I are still friends, we just haven't spoken that much.
     
    #138 bookreader, Feb 16, 2016
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