How would you positively reframe not being able to use hormonal contraception? Everywhere I try to look, medical aspects are pointed out, but also there is said a lot of fertile mother nature type of things and that on b.c. estrogen is low and women need more estrogen to feel good and function well. I don't like the "natural femininity" associations. Fertility gives me dysphoria. I don't like the "natural femininity" talk. I also don't have positive associations with estrogen. I don't like its symptoms and and "estrogen dominance" symptoms. It's not a real medical term, but in popular non-scientific articles it is described as a set of symptoms related to high levels of estrogen such as heavy and painful periods, irregular cycles, migraines, mood swings, PMS, gaining fat, cellulite, increased blood clotting, fluid retention... almost 100% matches what gives me dysphoria. Background information: I was prescribed hormonal birth control for both birth control reasons and painful, irregular periods and PMS. It turned out I have serious health issues with it. I was under a lot of pressure about it, maybe that's why I feel like I failed or like it is the only and/or superior solution - it was presented as such to me for a very long time.
I don't like it either. Sigh. I need to see gyno about the minipills. I'm getting dysphoric just thinking of needing to sit and wait until it's my time there, because it's like this separate room in the building, where all the pregnant women come to and women with babies. I don't like that I'm included with them. My T levels are high, what makes me happy, but I feel like it needs to be even higer for me to feel better. I also don't know how all of this works, so trying to find information about that. I myself am only learning about all these different methods of avoiding pregnancy and getting rid of painful periods. I have this google document and this is something written there. I don't know, if you're aware of it, so I will write it down: Shot - injection of the hormone progestin every 90 days in a doctor’s office. It prevents pregnancy by preventing ovulation from taking place. No ovulation = no pregnancy. It’s super effective… so long as you remember to go to the doctor every 12 to 13 weeks like clockwork. Many users report that the shot lessens menstrual flow and menstrual pain, or stops periods altogether. Nausea, headaches, dizziness, weight gain, and depression have been reported. If you end up wanting to get pregnant after being on the shot, know that the inability to conceive could last up to 12 months after your last dose. It's still hormonal, but it's not estrogen, but progestin, maybe this would suit you more. Maybe this helps somehow. I'm also still learning, so sorry, if this isn't too helpful.
I don't like babies either, but it's just a short waiting time. I hope? I don't tolerate the progestin only methods either, I tried the lowest possible dose, shots have a higher rate of side effects. But it had much less side effects for me than the pill with estrogen. Wow, that's long. I'd rather take no medicines if I don't absolutely need to. Idk. I just don't want that to be associated with "natural femininity". Why can't it be just "natural"? But natural what? Everyone in the queer community wants HRT, surgeries, piercings, tatoos and if not, they're a lesbian and not trans. And lesbians are all about being female-identified and feminism. And if you're brought up by wolves outside society and didn't receive female socialisation, then what?
Last time I waited for a while, but anyway it's tough, if you aren't good with any of these methods, but if progestin had much less side effects, then it's something to look into. Definetly consult about it with your doctor. I will PM you later more about some ideas, we haven't really discussed, but it's something just to look into. Yes, but it's better than just suffering in pain from periods and you can still get pregnant after, if you wish so that is a positive side. I hate taking medicine, so I feel you. Funnily I want all these things, but it's more about self expression, rather than about being trans. People just finally have that freedom to do these things, but I agree that this stigma that, if you don't wish them, then you're somehow less trans is plain stupid. It's like me still liking cute stuff makes me less of a man. I'm sorry, but that is bulls**t. I can be whoever I wish to be, whether I'm on hormones in the future or not, then I'm still me and even if T somehow changes some things, then it won't change any of my memories or being. It helps to become close to my real self and that's it. Us realizing who we are is us being natural. Even though we may need to take medicine or surgeries, then we are naturally ourselves.
I believe this is probably always the case with tatoos, piercings and colourful hair. I have nothing against it, I just don't feel like I belong in the LGBT community because of the combination of the above things. Thank you. I can't the progestins either. *nod nod* I mean, the "natural femininity" narrative is a way to create a positive story that builds good self-esteem around something someone does - in this case, non-hormonal, non-invasive birth control and dealing with periods. It's marketing like any other kind of marketing. But it makes me feel bad because of the femininity talk.
You got it tough. All I know to reccomend are hormonal stuff or medical procedures. I have limited knowledge, so I think your doctor could reccomend more, if you ask about nonhormonal period relief methods. I honestly can't stand all this talk about natural femininity and stuff. And that if you don't express yourself the right way, then your not trans enough or man or woman enough. All this is toxic to me. Who is to decide that you're not enough. At one point you start to believe what others say. I did told you, that I'm struggling and big part of that struggle is toxic masculinity and internalized transphobia.
It's toxic, isn't it? We as lgbt community are suppised to support each other but it just makes everyone feel bad about themselves because they don't fulfil certain standards Yeah, unfortunately Yup. I'm sorry you feel this way, you don't deserve it either, there is no one right way to be a guy and transphobia is awful
