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Partner and i have differing libidos

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  1. GazesToClouds

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    So my boyfriend and i have been dating for about 6 months now and its going really really well, we're both really happy together and its absolutely fantastic. The only thing is that we have very different libidos, mine is very high due to me being on testosterone supplements because i had cancer as a child and its a follow on treatment yada yada yada, anyways he is trans (FtM) and he ISNT on HRT yet. So before yall say "have you talked to him" yes we've talked it over. And he trys his absolute best and i love him for it, but i just find it quite difficult sometimes when im alone as im trying to kick a porn dependency/compulsion (not sure id call it an addiction) anyways just struggling a bit without him and was wondering if anyone had any ideas on how to deal with it?
     
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    Hi Gazes, do you think it's possible things will improve when your boyfriend goes on HRT? If so, I'm sure it will be worth waiting for, because it sounds like you and him have a wonderful relationship. Best wishes to both of you.
     
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    I am here to be supportive but to be honest I don't have a lot of advice.
    I have always struggled with this. Being a "straight" female my entire life it was the hardest thing to go through being hypersexual compared to the men I was with.
    It was super hard to watch the toxic masculinity of a straight insecure guy bloom when they found out I as a female was way more into sex then they were.
    Even in long term relationships it was twice as hard because after that honeymoon faze...
    So if you have someone that is caring and loving/understanding try to keep working on it even if it's super frustrating ( and I'm so sorry because I know it is.)
    If it goes on for TO long were working on it isn't making progress. Love yourself enough to make changes and please don't fall down the rabbit hole like me of feeling like crap about yourself.
    You're a beautiful human and it's completely normal and healthy :slight_smile:). And I know it's not the same as the touch of someone you love but if you're willing to work it through and be patient for him and you Haven't already. Explore your options with toys !
    Much love if you ever need someone to talk this weirdo is here lol
     
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    id say its likely, and of course it'd be worth the wait! i love him to bits

    thanks for sharing, we are still working on it and im sure we will continue to do so. just gotta find what works for us <3
     
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    Update to this: we've talked it over a few more times and he mentioned that i could possibly think about finding another partner who could satisfy my sexual needs until such a time as he starts HRT and then it things might change. He fully supports me but im unsure, ive never really considered something like this before. I love him completely and dont need anyone else emotionally, but he thinks that perhaps i could find a partner just for sex or like a partial polyamory sort of thing. Ive got no experience with any of this and was wondering if anyone has any info or opinions for me?
     
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