I'm gay and my boyfriend of 2 yrs is straight again!

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Wow, he sounds like quite a piece of work. I know it sucks now, but in the long run I think you'll be better off.

 

I'm so sorry hun **mega hug**

I'm not sure how to explain that behavior other than maybe he truly is bisexual, and the stress of "not being straight" made him snap? The not being able to be part of what is supposed to be typical of a man by cultural standards. I dont know. I think all you can do for now is live your life in the assumption that he is never coming back. If he does and things work out, great. If not, well, then you still have your life.

 

wow bro, ((((HUG)))) from me too. he sounds like he's young and exploring. that's the challenge cause i think he's still trying to figure things out and unfortunately you've become a victim of his exploration. you're a good guy man. hang in there. i think you'll get the support you need here. peace and ((((((( HUGS )))))))) ~ me

 

My boyfriend of 3 years has just told me he's straight too, I'm devestated, and don't know what to do, I feel betrayed and used, he's had boyfriends before and talks of nothing other than gay things, he says he's been living a lie and can't handle it anymore, help!!!

 

Oh man, just when I thought I opened up the possibility of dating a guy who is bisexual, now I'm not too sure. This is the problem. There's nothing at all wrong with bisexuality nor are they more prone to cheat. However, the main risk has to deal with the pressures from our society to conform to a "straight lifestyle." Someone who is bisexual faces the same pressures as gay people, but a bisexual can easily be fulfilled in a straight relationship whereas a gay person will feel empty. That is a risk when dating someone bi in a society that promotes heterosexuality to the extreme. It's not biphobia, it is reality. We all take risks when we date someone and bisexuality is an extra risk ONLY because of our heterosexist society. There's nothing wrong with bisexuality in of itself.... it's the cultural standards that make it risky to be with someone of that orientation. I know I'll get hate mail for saying all of that and someone bi will tell me they fall for the person not gender.... I'm not doubting that at all. But understand a gay person's point of view and concerns. Unfortunately, a few bad apples can give an entire group a bad name. Saying you are gay one day, then deciding you are straight the next. Now you can see why many gay/lesbians have concerns about dating bi people.

 

I'm sorry Brokenhearted Your story made me sad. I know it's not always an issue, but I wouldn't date anyone that was younger than 22 just because of maturity level. I know I wouldn't have dated the 22 year old version of myself. I think he is battling himself, detaching from you and the world as a result. You provided for him well, sounds like, in all areas of life. Some people are drawn to chaos, constant change, because, well, they're immature. It's strange that he has decided to do this at 24, though. That was the age when I grew tired of chaos and nothing ever being constant. I overheard some 20-something girls at a coffee shop talking this week, and one of them said, "Greg was a very good guy, and that's the problem."

I almost interjected, but stopped myself. I really wanted to tell her that the problem is she had it too good. From her story, Greg gave her a place to live, income, and didn't cheat on her. She had it made. I'm sure she'll see that she royally f'd up when she enters a disastrous relationship.

I'm rooting for Greg to have found a new, better woman by that time, and look back and laugh at his relationship he had with that girl.

You need a man, not a boy. I hope you start feeling better and get back out there, find someone who you absolutely want to spend the rest of your life with.