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If you have a child, do you want them to be Queer?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by Burnedcloset, Feb 20, 2015.

  1. Burnedcloset

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    So I saw news that a woman wants her child to be gay, like she is. I was confused at first because we always hear queer folk say "I wouldn't have chosen to be gay" or, something like that.

    Then I read more....and it makes complete sense. Why not want your child to be like you in some way? It's shouldn't be a big deal. As long as you don't care if your child turns out to not be queer.

    Society is the only thing that tells us being gay is the less desirable thing. Let's change that. Let's make queer be the thing people wish they could be. :slight_smile:

    Straight is too vanilla anyway.
     
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    If I had a child I would be happy as long as they are healthy and happy
     
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    Honestly, I wouldn't like them to suffer the way I suffered but I would support them if that was the case, of course
     
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    I don't think I would specifically choose it, but hopefully by the time I have kids, it will be so acceptable to be gay that it won't be such a problem if they are. Obviously if they were gay I would try to be the most supportive parent I could possibly be.
     
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    I don't think I'll be having kids, but if I do, I wouldn't care what their orientation is.
     
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    I want my child to feel free to be themselves. Whatever that might be.
     
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    I don't think I would ever have children (maybe adopt idk) but if I did then I wouldn't mind what sexuality they are, as long as they are themselves :grin:
     
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    I don't like it when people try and make their children to be like them (like for example..my son must be in the army because I was as was my father... I am a Doctor so my child will be a Doctor etc). Same goes for specifically wanting her child to be gay just because she is. The children are their own individual people. Whether straight, gay or bisexual, it shouldn't matter.
     
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    This.
     
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    If I wanted to have kids, I'd love for at least one to be asexual.

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    But their sexuality is their sexuality. Whatever they identify as, I'll support them.
     
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    Why would you want that?

    Btw, I wouldn't care about their orientation or gender identity.
     
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    I think it's best to love your children unconditionally.

    However, even if my child was straight, I want to raise them with non-heteronormative beliefs, because those beliefs can hurt straight people too. We just need more of those in our society, period.
     
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    I really don't mind either way :slight_smile: So long as they identify as who they are, not as who they think I need them to be, I'm fine
     
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    That's like asking "do you want your child to go thru something incredibly painful and difficult so they'll become a stronger and more compassionate person?" Like, no...but also yes.
     
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    Heterosexual or bisexual.

    Heterosexual, because it'd be easier in some aspects. Bisexual, because there'd be more people to love.

    But at at the end of the day, I'd rather they be comfortable with who they are. Whatever and however that may be. For one thing, they won't have an indifferent parent, which has made my situation a lot more frustrating than it has to be.
     
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    I genuinely couldn't care less. If anything I would be more excited to have a straight child, then one similar to me because I have never understood the mindset of wanting a child who is exactly like you. Discovering who they are and watching them live a different experience than you have is one of the most fascinating parts about having children.

    Though to make a more interesting response, whether they be my child or a close relative's, I would be most excited to find out that one of the future generation is either polysexual or lesbian, simply because there currently aren't any. Though that would honestly only be for the sake of diversity. I wouldn't care for any other reason.
     
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    I want my child to be happy, whether that means them being straight or if I have to support them in whatever. No, in-fact I don't just want them to be happy, I am going to try my damn hardest to help them be happy. ^.^
     
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    Honestly, I don't give a shit. I don't care if they're gay or straight or bi or pan or asexual.
     
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    Just to avoid the hate of some no I would want them to be straight and cis, if they were not I would have no issue with that but if a bigot tries to give them hell than God help them.
     
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    I would want them to be true to themselves, whether they were straight, gay, cis, trans, whatever. I would want them to be able to live as authentically and happily as possible.