It's been some time since i realized that i'm trans. I want to tell my parents who i really am but i fear that they wouldn't want to talk to me anymore and that they would throw me out of the house. I know that they wouldn't really do that but i'm just afraid. I think i know them for long enough to understand how they would react but i'm not sure. It's a really big thing to tell them and they are already dissapointed in me enough. I don't want to make the situation worse, but i rerally need to talk to someone about how i feel because i am very unconfortable, I just can't live a normal day life.
I'm in the same position. It's terrifying. I think just coming here is an amazing first step, or at least it has been for me. Just knowing you're not alone and there are so many other people out there who feel the same way is pretty big. You can private message me if you want to chat about anything or just want support. I'm working up the courage to come out to my parents too so I relate.
Hey Ognjen, I feel the same way. I'm also scared of what would happen if my (traditionally raised and eastern european) parents were to find out that I am trans. They have a warped and disgusting opinion of lgbtq+ people, and I fear them treating me if I were completely deranged and throwing me out. I don't think they'll ever accept me, so I'm making early plans to move out as soon as I can to get to an accepting community where I can truly be myself. There's just so many kind people here; some who have come out and some still closeted, but all willing to give helpful advice and the answers to your problems; you've come to a great place for getting the help you would like. I'd advise you to take a look around the gender identity subforum, that's where'll you'll find the most relevant discussions. Or if you would like to, please feel free to post on my wall. I'm open to talk about anything and maybe we can help each other's situations. Hugs your way, Ell.
I was scared to come out to my family as well. In order to gauge how they would take it, I brought up random LGBT controversies and made up 3rd hand account stories during small talk. For example you could say: At school today I heard this one random kids cousin came out to his parents as trans and they kicked him out and all this crazy stuff happened. Then you could ask your parents, what would you think if one of our cousins came out in our family? If they inquire why you're bringing the topic up just say, I don't know I just randomly overheard it today and thought it was crazy. If you're already on thin ice with your parents then I would probably wait. Your safety and security comes first. You have to survive before you can live. It's a sad pill to swallow but true.
Ognjen.....Hello and a big LGBTQIA+ welcome to Empty Closets! I can remember the first post that I made on EC. I was desperate for help and I got the help that night that I so needed. I hope that we can help you in the same way that I received help. The most important thing to remember about Empty Closets is that we do care about you! We're very glad that you found us here on EC and hope that we can answer questions, give you support and provide a place to vent (as long as it's not violent!) when that becomes necessary! This is a safe community of loving, caring and very supportive people and we will do our best to help you blend into the community. *****There are 18 different sub-forums here that you can check out, join in the conversations or start your own thread/conversation. When I first joined Empty Closets I was in need of a lot of support and encouragement and I found it here…EC is a safe place. I hope that you'll find good things here too! Folks here will talk to you and share...you don't have to be afraid of asking questions...we're glad to have you! Empty Closets is all about making connections and giving LGBTQ folks a voice when they otherwise don't have one in their day-to-day lives. *****In particular you may want to check out the forum that is titled "Gender Identity and Expression”, there are people there who may have dealt with some of the same kind of issues that could be challenging you. Some info on how to navigate EC: When you have made at least 10 posts on various threads you will be able to post messages on a member's Profile Page. Just click on a member's Avatar Picture and then click on "Profile Page" in the dialogue box that pops up. You'll then be on their Profile Page and there will be a box that says: "Write Something" When you have been on EC for a few weeks and have made at least 50 posts on various forums, you can apply for Full Membership. A Full Member can send Private Messages (PM) to other Full Members and share personal contact info. Right now you can only send a PM to a Staff Member as that is always possible. Here is a quote from the Full Membership information forum: *****To be eligible you must be a member of Empty Closets for a minimum of two weeks, and have a minimum of 50 posts. These posts must be across numerous forums (Fun & Games does not contribute to post count), and consistently posted across a minimum of two weeks. You wouldn't be eligible, for example, if you registered, had no activity for two weeks, and then returned to post 50 times on your 14th day of membership. *****Well, as I said, we're very glad you found us! If you have any questions at all, you can always send me a Private Message. …..David
