So I’ve identified as Pansexual for about 9 months now, and I’ve never really had any doubts about it until now. But I recently realized that I don’t like boys the way I like girls. I don’t think I’ve ever found a guy sexually attractive, but I’ve had crushes on them in the past. Sex with a guy doesn’t sound weird either. And I’ve always went for more feminine looking guys, such as long hair, shorter than me, or guys with more feminine faces. So am I a lesbian? Am I still pan?
From what you describe I think you are lesbian. Panromantic could also be another aspect of who you are but that is only a label. If you know you will be happier with women then go with your heart.
I mean, you might be a lesbian, but we can't really tell you for sure. It's not unusual for people to first come out as bi/pan when they realize they're same sex attracted, and realize later that they're actually just gay (not to say there aren't people who are sincerely bi/pan of course!). Can you elaborate more on not liking boys the way you like girls? Because from what you describe, it sounds like it may just be that you have a specific type of guy you're attracted to, or of course you may be a lesbian trying to convince yourself you're into guys. Have you heard of the term compulsory heterosexuality? If you haven't read into it yet, I would definitely recommend it, it's something that helps a lot of questioning women.
So when I’m attracted to guys, it’s not ever sexual, it’s very romantic. I imagine myself cuddling them, but not kissing them. I’m attracted to their personality and tend to think about if they have nice eyes and hair. With girls, there is instant attraction. I imagine myself cuddling and kissing girls. And I’ve only ever fallen in love with a girl.
So I am dealing with a situation kind of like yours. I recently got some good advice and want to pass it on. Labels are just words, and yes they can be life changing or make you feel more comfortable being who you are, but first you need to accept what you feel. It sounds to me like your conflicted over the male attraction, because you're not sure if you want to let it go yet. Maybe your hopeful for more to come with that side of you in the future? As for right now, the best advice I can give you is that you know you're attracted to girls more than you are to guys, so focus on that. See if you can find really good connections with girls, feel it out, and maybe the answer will come to you. Time will help.