I need support :(

I’m really sorry to hear about your daughter. I can’t imagine how hard that is to live with. Would you like to talk about her? You don’t have to, of course, but you can if it would be helpful.

It’s good that you were able to get the moderators involved to try to help this person, but I’m sorry that it’s caused you distress. With having lost your own daughter, it’s understandable so don’t give yourself a hard time for feeling this way.

I don’t think comparing what you’re experiencing to other things is helpful, which is what I assume is happening when you refer to it as “minor”. Helplines exist to support in all kinds of situations and I think this would be a valid reason to call.

Have you ever had therapy or forms support to help you with this?

 

That must have been very difficult, particularly at a fairly young age too. I’m really sorry to hear this.

Would your therapist be able to see you over video calls? Or could you speak with them over the phone?

With regards to coping right now, do you have a techniques that you use to help manage panic attacks? Something that would help you to feel more grounded?

 

I don't think it's a minor problem to contact helpline. Helpline is there to help you out and offer advise. I can't even imagine how much pain you are in. Losing a child, especially in such a young age must be painful.

One way to help ease your panic attacks is doing breathing exercises. Breathe in deeply and exhale. If you can, then let also in some fresh air. It helps a bit to make your mind feel clearer.

 

I’m assuming the SH is self-harm? Please correct me if I’m wrong. I think if that is your usual coping method, then a call to a help line would be very worthwhile. Is this something that your therapist is aware of and supporting you with?

If you don’t feel comfortable with calls, you could reach out to a text messaging based supportive service, such as: https://giveusashout.org/

 

What causes you to think that?

Another thought, if you’re a student, does your university have any support or wellbeing services that you could access? Also, if you’re on placement, there may also be support available through the Trust you’re based with? Don’t name the Trust on the forum, but it may be worth speaking to your placement mentor.

 

You dropped out of your course? Do you think it’s something that you could pick up again in the future?

I’m really sorry to hear about your friends. Perhaps you could look for some local LGBT+ groups and try to find people that are more like minded?

 

How are your relationship with your family members? Maybe there is someone you can confide in? Maybe call them? How about your partner, maybe you can talk to them? If you don't feel comfortable talking about it here, then it's okay.

You do draw and maybe you can, whenever you feel like SH, then instead crab a pencil and draw something. That can be a good coping mechanism. Writing letters or poems are good to way to get your thoughts out.

Cuddling with Teddy is a good way to get comfort too.

Exercising is good also, it helps to release tension, even gentle exercise.

 

That’s OK. Is your partner supportive?

 

Oh, I see. Do you want other people to think he’s your partner?

That’s not a judgemental question, just curious. I once had a friend that I would jokingly refer to as my wife.

Are you feeling any better now?