Congrats! My grandma is full german, and disowned me and my sisters because our dad is american (and my mom in the process), so I'm prob. never going to tell her <_<; Glad to hear yours went well though
:roflmao: I've seen more grandma's take it better than people in their middle-ages. I think they have experienced enough life, loss, and love that they can look past any preconceived ideas they had and just be happy that their grandchildren are happy!
I guess that's a fair comment... :dry: My dad is her first born, and I'm the oldest in my family, so I have grown up with my grandparents around. Plus they have had very long lives. 3 of the 4 have lived into their 90's. When my first daughter was born, she had 5 GREAT grandparents! 3 on my side and 2 on my wife's side. Update: Now that my grandma knows, my dad went ahead (with my permission) and told his two brothers while they were golfing together on Wednesday. So I expect they'll their wives and kids - so I'm now considering myself 'out' to my extended family. :eusa_danc It feels really great. And SO MUCH of my comfort and ease with respect to my orientation I've gained from hanging out here. You guys are the BEST!
In my experience there are 2 types of older people. The kind that have taken the chance to live and understand the things that are important in life. Then there are the kind that just lived and held onto preconceived notions of how we should live. Those people then not to react well to those that have found what is important in life.
My grandmother is in her early 70's and I think she'd probably take it okay. Someone in the extended extended family is gay, and she doesn't seem to have a problem with it, though she uses a bizarre euphemism when referring to his partner. I'd still probably wait till I was in a long term relationship before telling her, or anyone else in my extended family.
Congrats jim that is awesome, only if the majority of her generation thought that way thing would have been a lot easier for a bunch of people. I don't think still having grandparents at 38 is all that strange, my cousins are around the 30yo mark and my aunt's mother is still kickin so to speak.
I had my bf up to my parents' cottage for a holiday last week, and my mom and dad came up and brought my grandmother. So she was able to meet him in person. He had met my parents once before, so even spending time with them was nice. It felt very natural and everyone was very comfortable I think. It was really nice. I also learned that my grandma told one of her sisters that I'm gay. So now REALLY extended family know that I'm gay. And I'm thrilled! (I'll let this thread go now too. Just wanted to provide that one last update!)
Very cool. Your story has partly convinced me to come out to my grandma when we go on vacation next month. Initially I thought I would just avoid the issue, but then I though "F--- that, I'm telling her!" She's 86 and I love her We'll see how it goes.
After reading this thread I am seriously thinking of coming out to my grandmother and aunt (they live together). Once I tell them I can come out to the rest of my family. I want to do this now because I have a bf and I can see a future with him. I don't want to hide this from them anymore.
Yay, I did it! (Earlier than expected, too.) I just told her, and she didn't mind at all, and she said no one knew nothing of homosexuality "in her days". But she hugged me and told me she loves me no matter what. I'm relieved (Sorry for hijacking your thread )
