How do you help parents who are in denial?

Explain to them yes, its notmal to have feelings for girls, feelings such as empathy, love, friendship... But.... Another thing is to have romantic feelings and sexual feelings for girls...

Maybe you could also tell them that by this point you should have at least feel some sexual attraction to a guy, but you havent...and they should know that straight girls might take time to find in love, but lust happens with more frequence.

I hope they understand...otherwise they might get the sudden surprise of you having a girlfriend and they would be like " but but tbut....wasnt it confusion?" :lol:

Good luck...and patience

 

Mid 20's here. Just do you. If you need them financially still, then keep your relationships on the down low. When you can make it on your own, come out. If they love you, they will accept you.

 

Part of the reason that your parents think that you're confused is from the fact that you come off as confused. If you tell them you think that you're lesbian, instead of asserting that you are for sure, of course they're going to create scenarios why you might be confused.

I don't know how to help you over the confusion, but after you find out with more confidence that you are either lesbian, straight, or bi, then you can tell them with more assertiveness. Hopefully they'll be supportive! (*hug*)

 

You're in your 20's, not a little girl any more ya know. I think you should explain that to them. But, just let them think what they please if theyre steadfast in their views. Definitely don't go out on a dating spree.

You get a girlfriend, if you think it's something serious, try to introduce her to your parents and such.

 

I agree with this. Although I would like to add that it might be helpful (if they aren't too homophobic, sounds like they're not THAT bad) just to sit down with them and remind them of how you feel. They might think it was a phase. That being said some people are more comfortable with the gay community when they don't have to think about it. I'm not saying it's right but sometimes silence CAN be the best policy. We can give you advice all you want but you're the one who knows them best and you're the only one who can decide what's best for you and your relationship with them.

 

Yeah, my parents are like that too. I think what happens is from throughout the years of having a negative opinion that people choose to be gay, when it hits so close to home, they can't accept it. If they did accept you were gay, then that would imply either you were just like the people they "disliked" or those people...aren't as wrong as they had initially thought. Basically, they don't want to admit they were wrong, which is to be expected, but maybe in time when they observe you in a relationship with a woman, it will finally sink in.

 

Ask their opinions on gay marriage and maybe ask what they would do if you were gay. If they say something that sounds dangerous, don't come out. From your description, I don't think that they would