how did you know you were gay?

guys be like, "daaaaaaaaang look at that guuuuuurl!"
...and i just wouldnt understand. The guys looked a lot better

 

i ferst relized wen in 4-h camp war me and my openly gay roomate wer taking showers with just us to so the shower is a old fashen 1 for 3 or 4 peaple so i got iin and adout 2 minits later he got in with my my ferst that was omg he is cute and got hard he looked and semed shoked so i sed i was thanking about girls he smiled and i told him very serisly if he ses a word i will stangl him so to this day he hasent sed any thing to anybody and he is still my frend we hang out at lunch alot so

 

I started to look at guys in the locker room during middle school. You know, everyone's going through puberty, wandering eyes, shirtless guys in the locker room. Also, I couldn't stop staring at guys.

 

I had never wanted to get in a serious relationship during school with any girl, I saw them all the same as dumb, ignorant snobby people. But not everyone saw them like that so I did start to doubt my sexuality, and the result is what you have here today.

 

I played football my freshman year of high school, and seeing all the guys coming out of the shower...the evidence was kind of *hard* to hide.

 

While I'm not gay, had someone told me what pansexuality was when I was a youngster, I would say I knew since I was in preschool. If someone told me that there are trans people out there who feel/felt the way I did, I would have been relieved. But in any case, I would have said I always knew I was a boy or I was supposed to be born one.

 

Yeah same as you. I just always knew from as far back as I remember, there wasn't much questioning. Started dealing with it in the last few months though really.

 

It hit me at the age of around 11, 12, 13.

I remember having feelings for guys around 9 too though but I didn't really grasp what was happening.

 

I realized I could be once I accepted the fact that I had a crush on one of my best friends. Known him for years, but only recently did I develop the crush once I also accepted the fact that I wanted to be a woman, or at least a trans woman. Ever since then it's like... woah, I might like guys... lol

 

I never quite got what the fuss about goodlooking guys was, but I didn't think anything of it until I had this huge crush on a girl. At about 17, it took me really long to understand and accept what it meant, but I simply couldn't deny it anymore.

 

I think I realized pretty early on in life. It took me a lot longer than that to actually accept and acknowledge it.

 

I had known since I was about 10, and started to deny it (and fight it) since a few months ago. My denial stage was pretty long, but after one pretty *ahem* open-minded weekend with one of my male friends I felt free for the first time...well, ever. I also realized it's okay to be gay. I had secretly always known and had wanted to accept it, the only thing which had really stopped me, I suppose, was the 'it's bad' mindset.

After that, it went really quickly, pretty much came out to myself in a week's time. But boy, that was one emotional roller coaster week for me!

 

Guys gave me wood.

Lex

 

Ha! That's exactly how I felt. I had sort of had this feeling from early on in high school. I tried to deny it, but I've recently realized that it's okay. I'm not quite there yet, but hope to be soon.

 

It's official. I'm a stereotype. After watching a scene from Prayers For Bobby I realized that I am indeed gay. It was the scene where Bobby turns down sex with a girl. He says I don't want to get too serious and. Well, I got too serious with a couple of girls and ended up breaking their hearts. Just because I didn't want to admit I was gay. It feels funny typing those words. It also feels right.

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I was able to avoid locker rooms mostly since I'm disabled. The few times I was in there my eyes did roam a bit.

 

Well, for me I started questioning around 6th grade. I came across yuri (well, more-aptly, shoujo-ai) and I felt drawn to it. I have no idea why; thought it was pretty freaking awesome/cute/etc. When girls talked about "hot guys", I felt confused, like "I don't get what you see in these people!" I had crushes on two of my girl friends, one in 7th and one in 8th. I considered them very pretty (they both still are, honestly), and, well, I wanted to kiss them. My feelings for the second girl were a bit more persistent, probably because the first one moved. I settled for being friends because she was straight. During that time I had a girlfriend, felt absolutely crushed when she broke up with me. Eventually got over it, had two crushes in freshman year of highschool, and was together with my second girlfriend for over a year. I could see us together long-term, but maybe that was the hormones talking. I enjoyed everything we did together, until I started questioning my sexuality again.

And here I am now. Most signs probably point towards "gay" or "mostly gay", but I'm battling a lot of unsurity. Hopefully I'll come to a conclusion one day.

 

I only realised recently and it was just kind of an epiphany like... "I might be gay". So I did some research and watched porn and explored my feelings a bit more and it just felt right for me. I've always been awkward when it comes to sexuality but since realizing I'm a lot more comfortable, it's more natural.

Early signs were that I had no idea what made a guy cute... the most prominate thing I can remember was my friends crushing on and obsessing over the jonas brothers and I just couldnt tell them apart and didn't care too... I just didn't understand!!!
Also I hated gym because my friends would be discussing bras and showing them off and I felt really "awkward and anxious" which I now recognize as attraction, not anxiety.
And as I was questioning I realized how unattractive penises are. I really don't want one anywhere near me.

 

I had lots of awkward incident in the locker room/showers when I was a kid as well , man ! Puberty is a nightmare when you are a gay kid wanting to be straight . When I was getting hard from looking at some of my friends , they would point at me and say things like "Look he has a hard on that's so gay" and as a quick way of hiding the truth I would say "Its because I was thinking of (Insert girls name)" then all the guys at my school would tell that girl I used as a cover up that I had a hard on thinking of her lol So embarrassing ...But seriously that is a good way of confirming your sexuality, thinking of girls never physically affected me but boys on the other hand always did and still does...

 

Oh god, your friends were obsessed with the Jonas brothers too? The one girl I had a crush on was SUPER into them, as were a decent amount of girls in my class... I didn't understand why. They just looked like regular ol' guys to me. I'd have much rather looked at a cute girl than a "cute/hot" guy. Luckily I hear less about girls obsessing over guys now (or at least it's not as obvious).

I do have one lady friend now who's all like "ERMAHGERD GUYS!"... and I still don't get it. I mean, yeah I guess they're good looking. But not necessarily super attractive in my eyes. Not much has changed in a few years, that's for sure. :lol:

 

I watched that film last night , loved it , I could relate to it. The kid playing bobby was a very good actor and Sigourney Weaver was just amazing in that film!