I know that in a lot of cases, you just know but I'm talking about those who found out at a later age (eg teenage years, adults years). What really brought it home for you? Because I've always thought of myself as straight until about a year or so ago and I am pretty convinced that I am bisexual. I'm a teenage female and I feel that I'm attracted to both sexes, though it's not exactly 50/50 and I tend to be attracted to males more often than women. It sounds stupid but the only thing that is making me doubt myself being bisexual is that I hadn't known myself before .
Re: How did you come to realisation that you were gay/lesbian/bisexual/pan-sexual etc I came to the realization at about 12/13 when I checked out guys as much as I did girls. It seemed to me that I had more sexual attraction to males and romantic attraction to females (which is still sort of the case) but I'm fairly sure I average 50/50 in both respects over the long term.
Re: How did you come to realisation that you were gay/lesbian/bisexual/pan-sexual etc I knew when I was 12 and my friend who lived next door and I were messing around. I just knew something was different about me. I didn't come to terms with it until decades later, but that's when I think I knew I'm gay.
Re: How did you come to realisation that you were gay/lesbian/bisexual/pan-sexual etc I have always had small crushes on girls (apart from boys). I never though of it as a crush. At first I though I just admired their beauty or personality, but later I discovered it was a crush. I told my closest friend about my questioning bisexuality (she was my secret impossible crush), and apparently she was bisexual as well. One thing led to another.. and now we are dating
Re: How did you come to realisation that you were gay/lesbian/bisexual/pan-sexual etc I always went by what my parents felt about it, that it's wrong. So when I stopped sharing their beliefs, I questioned alot of things that I previously did not allow myself to do. Found out I was bi. And for the gray-A part, that was just always normal for me. I just thought I was weird, or everyone else was. Turns out it's an orientation? Still weirded out by that.
Re: How did you come to realisation that you were gay/lesbian/bisexual/pan-sexual etc It doesn't sound stupid! (*hug*) Don't doubt yourself. It is very overwhelming and confusing when you realize it. I thought about it when I was young, but it wasn't until much later that I knew it. Take your time, explore your options. Life is full of possibilities so take a chance and know that you deserve to be happy
Re: How did you come to realisation that you were gay/lesbian/bisexual/pan-sexual etc I had a mega crush on a girl in my maths class for about a year when I was 12/13
Re: How did you come to realisation that you were gay/lesbian/bisexual/pan-sexual etc I still remember it clearly. I'm not sure if you have seen the David Beckham's Armani Underwear ads?? Well, he was wearing nothing but a tight underwear and when I saw it I had this feeling inside me (I later found out it's called being horny). Yeah I was around 13-14 then.
Re: How did you come to realisation that you were gay/lesbian/bisexual/pan-sexual etc I never really questioned my sexuality before. I always assumed I was straight but just not interested in finding a girlfriend. It would happen when it happens. Until I fell in love, about two years ago... with another guy. The moment you realise you're not just having platonic feelings but that you're actually having a crush on someone from the same sex is very weird, to say the least.
Re: How did you come to realisation that you were gay/lesbian/bisexual/pan-sexual etc I really don't know or remember. I wish I did though.
Re: How did you come to realisation that you were gay/lesbian/bisexual/pan-sexual etc i used to always watch straight porn. i never was interested in gay (girl/girl or guy/guy) porn. but i realized that i was more into seeing the male in action than the female.
Re: How did you come to realisation that you were gay/lesbian/bisexual/pan-sexual etc I think this is the case for most of the gay community...And certainly it's true for me: when I was young (about 5 years old) I realised something wasn't right...And as time went on this became more and more apparent to me. Then when I was about 10, I think, I heard about being gay. And it was from that moment on, I realised that's what I was. Although I hate saying "I realised something wasn't right", because it sounds like being gay is wrong (which it isn't), but you get my point? Lol
Re: How did you come to realisation that you were gay/lesbian/bisexual/pan-sexual etc Pretty much the same thing happened to me. It occurred to me last night that back when I assumed I was straight I never once thought about actually getting a boyfriend. I was just completely uninterested. Then after completing my first semester of college I found myself having really strong feelings toward a female friend. At first I wasn't sure whether they were platonic or romantic, but over the course of the following month or so it became pretty clear that they were the latter.
Re: How did you come to realisation that you were gay/lesbian/bisexual/pan-sexual etc I've told the story here several times. Let's just say it involved a jogger wearing exceptionally tiny shorts. Hey, it was the early 90s. Lex
Re: How did you come to realisation that you were gay/lesbian/bisexual/pan-sexual etc I had homosexual feelings since I was seven, but I only know when I look back. It was so obvious to me, but I have such a strong willpower I can actually deceive myself to believe otherwise. Deep down I already knew, but I realized and embraced my sexuality when I was 19-20.
Re: How did you come to realisation that you were gay/lesbian/bisexual/pan-sexual etc I was perhaps 11 or 12 when I realized I was different than the other girls in more ways than I always thought. I never really came out as LBGTQ do today. I just lived my life and when being a lesbian became okay in the 70's I was one. I never told anyone in the sense of coming out. It just happened in the flow of life. Most knew but because of the era they never said nor did I.
Re: How did you come to realisation that you were gay/lesbian/bisexual/pan-sexual etc I knew I was different from the other girls. I never really understood why I would never go boy crazy over other guys. I began to question my sexuality and was in denial about 3-4 years ago. Then I met a woman at work who is a lesbian and it kind of hit me like a ton of bricks. She is married and a lesbian and I knew that's how I was supposed to live my life. I knew I would be married to a woman one day. So I came out to her last year and haven't looked back!
Re: How did you come to realisation that you were gay/lesbian/bisexual/pan-sexual etc I have accepted my bisexuality in the past year, but I was repressing attractions to men since high school. I even liked some boys and girls in elementary school and even play married a guy when I was like 5. But still not sure how to come out to my parents... I like men and women about 50/50!
Re: How did you come to realisation that you were gay/lesbian/bisexual/pan-sexual etc i can't explain it but there really isn't anything i'm not attracted to any type of body, basically. realized this when i was about 15. like i knew i liked girls and guys around 11/12/13 but eventually i understood better how i felt about what i was looking at in terms of sexual attraction
Re: How did you come to realisation that you were gay/lesbian/bisexual/pan-sexual etc It was a bunch of things really. I started questioning my sexuality when I was in middle school when I had a crush on my best friend who was a girl. I thought that maybe I could be bisexual at the time, but I didn't want to accept it so I pushed it out of my mind. Even though I didn't accept it at the time, I had a lot of friends that were a part of the LGBT community already. I wanted to understand them better so I decided to do research about the LGBT community and learned some new things that I never knew existed which were genderqueer people, transgender people, and pansexuality. It was interesting. I always knew I was attracted to guys; that I knew for sure, but I didn't want to accept that I could be attracted to women too. Later on in life I started to let go of my fear and just paid attention to who I looked at. I noticed that I was attracted to just about any kind of person. I didn't really care about gender at all. That was how I figured out I was pansexual. What got me to accept it, as stupid as it is, was a bunch of different music videos I found last year that had a lot of beautiful people that I was very attracted to. It was what made my mind click, and say "accept it already!" Now here I am loving myself for who I am!
