I'm... tired of labels. I'm not out as anything. I experience attraction to women, and some "sort-of-maybe" attraction to guys. The thing is, I don't want to be bisexual. I don't want to date guys, the thought of a lesbian relationship appeal to me way more. So, I kind of want to "pick a side". Has anyone in here done that?
If you would rather not go out with guys outside of the potential odd circumstance, just call yourself a lesbian if that is what you want.
I think you should continue to label yourself as whatever makes you the most comfortable. I feel the same way about men, and I personally identify as lesbian because it seems as it fits the best and makes me the most comfortable.
im a female dating my first ever female. its hard. i dont label myself as anything coz i personally feel if we broke up i would go back to guys as they are easier to date than us woman haha and thats what i was used to my whole life. but im engaged to a female so some would say im gay but really itds all in how you feel
I used to feel more pressure about picking a label but oddly enough it is a non issue for me now. I feel that, if you are true to yourself, and refuse to feel shame over who you are and who you love, then the rest will sort itself out. You don't have to commit to this or that label if you are not ready to. Just be open. If you are a lesbian that is fine. If you are bisexual that is fine too. Labels are mostly so you can recognize compatibility between your attractions and others. It isn't a sealed and done fate once you've come out.
I think labels can be kind of comforting in a world where everything is categorized and it's expected to want to fit yourself into a box, but how you choose to define yourself needn't be limited by a label. I'm kind of similar in my sense of attraction, but it ever fluctuates, and I'm at the point now where bisexual works just fine for me - it doesn't have to be as clear cut or linear as it might imply. Just do you.
I'm pansexual. I "picked a side" when Gideon became my partner. I'm on Gideon's "side". Do I still find others attractive? Definitely, in an aesthetic way, anyway. That said? If you don't want to date guys, don't date guys. Just because you find some of them attractive doesn't mean you have to date them. Sometimes the gender you don't want to date is just.... nice to look at.
