Guy may be bi ? / are gay men occasionally liking women?

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I think the only thing you can do is talk to him about it; ask him how he feels about you--how he really feels--and what about the kiss made him cry. Was he crying because it felt wrong, or did it feel like a betrayal to him over his long-held belief that he is in fact gay? Does he merely feel a strong friendship towards you, or is it romantic in nature?

Only if/when he answers these questions honestly can you know for sure. It's entirely possible he is gay, but it's also possible that he's bisexual with a much stronger attraction to men. Due to his lack of experience (and I assume he's not mentioned ever having past attractions to women?) it's entirely possible you're the first woman he's ever felt that way towards, and it's caused him some confusion/distress.

It happens sometimes, that someone who thinks they're straight/gay winds up attracted to one person--and only one--opposite from the sex they're attracted to. In these cases, whichever label (if any) that feels comfortable to them is fine; bisexual, gay, lesbian, straight... None of them are technically wrong, because it was a one-off. All it means is they aren't 100% the orientation they originally thought they were, which is actually a lot more common than people being "fully" one way or the other.

(I quote "fully" because while that suggests bisexuality, 1) bisexuality isn't half one or the other, it's its own complete sexuality, and 2) The lack of being fully doesn't negate their preferred label).

I digress: once you've gained clarity on the matter, you can decide where to go from there.

 

You probably know this but a gay guy can have sex with a woman and certainly kiss a woman and still be gay. I don't know what you mean by hung out and kissed - no reason to go into detail but to you was it a friendly kiss or a romantic /sexual one? There have been some high profile celebrities that haver publicly declared being lesbian/gay only to end up with someone of the opposite sex later on. I don't know what to make of that.

Occasionally I will see a woman I find super attractive and think "i wouldn't mind", so I suppose it's possible.

 

For me I can certainly acknowledge a beautiful woman but have absolutely no interest in being intimate with one. I prefer seeing them clothed, these days I avoid looking at nude women as I find it grosses me out. I can’t imagine any situation where I could be intimate with a woman again.

 

My experience is somewhat similar. A beautiful woman still catches my eye, but that's about it. Naked women don't gross me out but I never seek out seeing those images anymore - prefer men. And, the thought of being intimate with a woman no longer registers with me.