I was 24, at my mother's house for Thanksgiving, and my older sister asked, in front of everyone, "why didn't you bring your girlfriend." I looked at her, stunned and confused, speechless. She then said, "OMG, everyone knows," and then began eating her meal, as if she had just announced the weather. I'm sure it was my ex-husband who told them because I was sleeping with his ex-girlfriend. I was out of the closet for a few years, but then I climbed back in. I figured, it's my personal life and not really anyone else's business.
Good grief, your sister had no right to out you like that. So what if "everyone knows"? It's your business, not hers, and she shouldn't have said it at all.
Yes. I did have a gf at the time. I didn't think my family had any idea. I anticipated my mother lecturing me on the Bible, but she didn't. I'm sure it would've frustrated me, but, looking back, I wonder why she didn't. It's a little disappointing.
Perhaps she has realized that lecturing won't do any good, and is slowly coming to acceptance. Even for bible thumping ultra-religious types, this absolutely happens. Sometimes it takes years... and sometimes it never happens, but much of the time, parents eventually come to terms and are supportive. I know several people whose parents are ultra-conservatlve pastors. One went through conversion camp twice (where, he said, he had some of the best sex ever.... LOL). But all, eventually, had their parents come around.
That's awful, Blessed! The subculture surrounding us affects the way we consider things like how much of ourselves to reveal and to whom - family can be especially difficult to deal with Sorry!
You are right, your personal life is only your business. I am only out with a few close gay friends and am comfortable with that. Some people like to be public about their sexuality, others like us want to keep it private, it's not like we want to wear it on a t shirt or something.
