Hi everyone I'm 17 yo and I really love crossdressing and take it as a part of my personal identity. Until now I only crossdressed home, but for a while I had a very strong urge to go out in the fem outfit into the public and I have the courage to do so. But I not as much as I need, I'm also really really afraid to do it, not only because I live in a country, where the members of the LGBTQ+ community are actively criticised by the majority of population and even physically attacked and killed just for what they are, but mainly for the reaction of the surrounding people. Recently I encouraged myself to go to the women's department in the clothing shop and I was stressed and scared to death, but it was also really really liberating. And I would want to experience this liberating feeling again, but I don't know how, one option I came up with was to only wear the outfits in the school because I have support at least from some people, but I don't have this "sense of security" outside, but I'm also afraid to do it there, because of the reaction of people I know who don't know about my identity or the ones who don't support it. I'm really really confused and sad from this situation and I would be really greatful for your advices how to get out of this mess... Thanks :')
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Hi and welcome I’m very sorry to hear that you’re living in an LGBTQ+ unfriendly country, but it’s great that you have some support. And I’m sure you’ll find understanding and supportive people here, too It’s import to learn to accept oneself, realise that you’re real and your expression of self is perfectly valid and there is nothing wrong with it, no matter if there are people around are saying… But it’s also important to stay safe. Best of luck to you
