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Can somebody please help me figure out my gender?

Discussion in 'Gender Identity and Expression' started by NyctoDotPYC, Jul 10, 2023.

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  1. NyctoDotPYC

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    So, I feel like I'm mostly feminine and non-binary, but slightly masculine. I asked google, but it only said I was androgynous, which doesn't fit. Asked ChatGPT, no luck. I don't think I'm androgynous, and I just need some help figuring out my gender.
     
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    Why don't just non-binary fit?
     
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    I'm afraid that you're not likely to get an answer to that question from Google, AI or random quizzes that you see on the Internet. You might as well ask the cat. And given that the only information you've provided is almost entirely contradictory, I'm not sure we can shed any light upon it either.

    I'd advise you to think and read (properly read, that is) and research and start to feel your way around this subject. Ultimately, being trans/non-binary is about what's down deep in your soul, at the very core of your being. It's not something that can be - or should be - decided on a whim.

    Good luck!

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    NyctoDotPYC.....Hello and a great big LGBTQIA+ welcome to Empty Closets! :old_smile: I can remember the first post that I made on EC. I was desperate for help and I got the help that night that I so needed. I hope that we can help you in the same way that I received help. The most important thing to remember about Empty Closets is that we do care about you! We're very glad that you found us here on EC and hope that we can answer questions, give you support and provide a place to vent (as long as it's not violent!) :old_big_grin: when that becomes necessary!

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    You could be genderfluid,gender-flux, pangender, omnigender, etc. I would suggest going to a fandom or wiki to learn more.
     
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    Here's the thing about these kinds of threads:
    At the end of the day and when all the glitter and dust settles, it'll have to be you to make that final judgement. Take everything you know about yourself and inform that judgement with it.

    So you feel that you're on the femme side of things. Okay, the question then becomes, why? And does that mean you're just a femme guy, or does it mean something entirely different? Do you want to change your body because of it? How much of this matters to you, in the end? Those all might seem like obvious questions, but you'll ask them anyway if you haven't.

    For example, I am also in an odd area of the whole gender kerfluffle. Physically I'd ideally be exactly in the middle, but socially, the female stuff calls my name. And when I look at the rest of my life, it's kind of tracked that way. The obvious and the non-obvious both are important to consider.

    I can help guide you a bit in terms of things like this even though I'm trans, but nobody can just tell you what you are. That's something only you have the real say in.
     
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