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Can porn make you gay?

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by kellymporta, Dec 16, 2011.

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    I thought the article was interesting because it didn't involve religious people trying to justify that homosexual people can change. The article seemed to be from a more credible source. Anyway, some of your replies made me realize that I was probably neglecting the fact that the people mentioned in the article are porn addicts. Personally I watch porn regularly, but I don't think I've ever watched porn so much that I needed to find fetishes or weird things to get turned on.

    Well if everything was as simple as it sounds in the article, maybe if I start watching too much gay porn then I will get tired of it and start watching straight porn (plus some fetishes in the process).

    I guess I should just accept the fact I'm gay, but I'm just too stubborn for that.
     
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    It seems that the only way you'd become "wired" for straight porn is if the taboo nature combined with the anxiety from the fact that you shouldn't be watching it would give an increase in the release of dopamine.

    In the article "Can you trust your Johnson?" it seems to suggest such wiring does not change orientation as you only enjoy watching porn of that variety and not actually partaking in such sexual acts. Even if you could get wired to straight porn, the actual experience would be much less stimulating is the argument the article seems to make.

    It should be noted that porn was added as an addiction along with eating and other things that trigger a strong release of dopamine this year. It appears that a lot of research is being put into the effects of pornography on an individual.
     
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    I'm a female who prefers to watch gay porn (gay as in all males, for the record). So am I gay because I like gay porn, or am I ultra straight because I only like seeing naked men, not women?

    Gayception...?
     
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    It takes a while man. For people deeply buried in the closet, a long time. I mean, I'm only partly attracted to guys and with that more-so girls and even that took a while. I don't know how the "only" would go over. BUT, what I do know is that once you're on the journey? You won't ever want to go back to pretending to be straight again, it's actually near impossible lol. It does make life easier.
     
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    Some people are more polymorphously perverse and more aware of what underlying emotional/fetishistic thought processes are causing their turn-ons, than others. Some people have more control over where their fantasies take them. Some people can be influenced by porn, while others cannot be.

    The article about the parkinson's treatment causing transvestitism is interesting, but not surprising. One objection though: that was not a change in sexual orientation. The man was straight before, and he was still attracted to women during treatment; the fact that he found women's clothing a turn-on to wear is evidence enough that his attraction to women was still there, it was just mis-directed somehow.
     
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    I watch straight porn. I am definitely not straight yet.
     
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    I agree with everything said above. Porn is an avenue of exploring your likes and dislikes. But your mind is far more powerful than images on the internet, there's a reason you gravitate to gay porn...
     
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    Wow, that was a really interesting article!

    But if you have a positive experience with something, wouldn't you start to associate good feelings about it in the future?

    Like lets say person A normally had no interest in transexual sex. But he watched a video that had an extremely beautiful transexual actor/actress in it. Person A finds himself aroused and now plays with the idea of hooking up with a transexual on craigslist.
     
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    it can. it's something called ''sissy hypnosis'' or something like that. A lot of people just think it's fake and just a fetish but it actually works and thats quite frightening acutally..
     
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    no it cannot! it may "trigger" certain things in you that you have denied or burried so deep that you were not aware of them. so called, self hypnosis is the same, just another genre of porn.
     
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    I hear about that but really, if someone is heterosexual this "hypno" videos won't make him gay. If that would be that easy every homosexual person who don't want to be gay would just watch/listen to some "i make you hetero now" hypnosis -_-
    We know it doesn't work that way.

    And also in my opinion if someone was watching porn for YEARS - start with soft stuff and then after years of watching different kind of fetishes land towards gay porn it's pretty cause of desensitization.
    But if someone is watching porn from time to time only and after some months he start watching gay porn it may be cause this is what he want.

    I know it works that way just by myself. I watch porn what is really arousing me but i know i don't want this in real life. I'm sure of it.
     
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    just to add to my last, even "real" hypno therapy cant make you something you are not, just let you go where you actually are.
     
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    I can relate to a lot of this. I started watching porn around 13 years old i think, but not exactly sure what i watched first. Anyways i eventually found myself on gay porn sites, and something about it made me more aroused than the straight stuff. One of the things i feared most was that watching gay porn made me question my sexuality. But then i remember certain situations at school where i would be staring at other guys, and not the girls. I didnt know what any of that meant until more recent years. I would agree with the argument that porn simply reveals your attractions. Ive tried finding a girl i would like, always thinking that maybe there is someone out there who will just click, but this never happened so far.