Bi curious vs gay

I think that people are people to be honest and that generalising never works

 

It is very confusing for many. Romantic orientation vs sexual orientation vs levels of attraction in each category. In the end it’s what Cinnamoon said.

 

I’m not expert but to me a bi-curious person is someone who knows they like one gender and is curious/interested in what it would be like to be with the other gender. I don’t see how it has anything to do with how forward you are or how you show or don’t show someone you like someone.

To me this definition is a generalisation based around the nonsense that bi people must get it on with everyone and be attracted to everyone which just isn’t true.

 

Bi-curious is Kinsey 1-5 and gay is 6

 

You mean bisexual?

 

I dunno I was using the wording of the OP??

 

Bisexual means you are attracted to both men and women.
Bicurious means you are interested and open to wondering if you are bicurious.
I think that’s right?

 

Oh god that should say wondering if you are bisexual!

 

I'm bi-curious as I've never experienced it, though fantasize about it (sleeping with a man). I think I'm highly likely to be bisexual, but without actually experiencing it I can't say for sure--if my body would respond the way I'd want it to.

 

Surely the difference between being bi-curious and bisexual is that the former hasn't acted upon it?

Vikki, I wouldn't get hung up on labels. Fancy who you want to fancy. Go with who you want to go with. Go with your own flow.

Beth x

 

I don't think that's quite right, at least for me. I realized I was bisexual after getting married and I'm committed to that relationship so I haven't physically explored that side of my attractions, but I still think bisexual fits me.

For me it has to do with certainty. I am confident in these feelings so I don't think it would make sense to call myself 'curious' in that sense. I did describe myself that way for a while when I was trying to figure things out, but I shed it once I got past that.

I do agree with this. A label is a tool. If it's useful, go ahead and use it but if it's not then let it go.

 

Well said. That was my experience. When I first began to realize I was bisexual I really wasn't sure and I described myself as bi-curious at that point... I did a lot of thinking about it and a lot of soul-searching and gradually realized I was and shed that, but I really think it's just exactly what it sounds like, curious, but not sure and like you I don't see a connection with the other stuff, it sounds like maybe whoever produced that video had some preconceptions...

 

No worries, that's fine.

No, I don't think that's it. I prefer to think of it as attraction to multiple genders, but that aside it doesn't have to be the same kind of attraction or even the same level for all.

The short version is because I'm interested in sex and relationships with multiple genders.

That's not as simple as it sounds, though as it took me a long time to come to terms with that. For me the fact that I liked women made it really easy to hide from myself that I also liked men (and more, as I came to realize more recently).

Based just on that it sounds like you are more likely a lesbian than bi, but it's ok to take time to figure that out.

Lots of different ways. It may be strictly limited to thinking they're cute/pretty/handsome/what-have-you, or it may go beyond that. It may make me think about what it would be like to have sex with them, or even what it would be like to be in a relationship with them...

 

I'm generally attracted to certain qualities and looks/fashion don't really come into it at all. I just like people who are dominant and assertive, who can get the job done without me having to worry about it. I find that is what I'm naturally attracted to... I do find really beautiful women attractive in a purely physical way, though, I don't with men at all.

 

I'm quite lucky in that I'm the least assertive and dominant person, so most women are attractive to me! It's different with men, though, I guess I'm far pickier. It's only certain types of men I find attractive, not sure I'd ever find out for certain if I was bi, though. I don't like the thought of being intimate with someone simply for the sake of intimacy alone.