Anal Sex -- I cannot make feel pleasurable

I am so,so glad that you arrived at this decision.Good for you.:eusa_clap :eusa_clap

 

I am Soooo relieved that you made the right decision. I think that although you would like to experiment you still have issues that need to be resolved before you embark on this side of your adult life.

From what you say you need to work through your guilt problems before anything else. Making love with a loving partner before marriage is nothing to feel guilty about but, if you can't sort out these issues will, at this stage in your life, take all the fun out of something very natural, beautiful and loads of fun. Just having random sex for the fun of it will be very difficult for you to live with at the moment.

You might like to start a guilt thread here and see what people have to say about sex, religion, marriage etc. I know I have plenty to say on the subject! :lol:

 

I'm glad you finally saw and understood all the warning signals. You WILL find the right person one day and when you do it'll have been worth the wait. Well done.

 

New18,

Goodmorning! Not much more to add here. You'll find that most of us will share similar thoughts with you.
I want to support and encourage you to take on the wisdom shared by NICVCER. He's "on -point". This is exactly the same advice most of us would give you. Bottom line........it's time you look out for you.
When meeting others......especially older guys at your age, put yourself always in a safe place. A position of "power" where you're not left to be "open an vulnerable" this is key. When making plans do it with a group and perhaps encourage the same from the guy you're going to meet.
You will have far greater success meeting others that are more relatable. Sorry......the "Daddy / Boy " relationship might work later but you need to get some mileage on your "gay card" first!!
Simply put........thousands of young guys & gals end up hurting for years because of lecherous & hungry veterans who selfishly exploit their youth for their own pleasure.
Trust me ............not something you sound like you deserve.
Think long and hard regarding the advice NICVCER has sharred. Life is short.........play hard with the "right team". You'll live long & be happier for it!

Stay Strong & Press On!! :icon_wink

Suede7
Delray Beach, FL

 

Thanks for the support Seude! It's good to know you guys are watching my actions even though I've only been here like a week now. This was my first chance on here to really help someone, even though I joined this site to help myself. I honestly think I did influence his decision, and that means a lot to me. This particular thread made it way easier for me to lend my advice to others while realizing that I don't need to be pushy or one-sided. Hopefully we will be seeing much more of new18!
Thanks again for your support
Dan

 

Yeah...well done Nicvcer!!

 

he sounds like a ephebophile to me.

 

Listen kid, you made a damned good decision. I did exactly what you were gonna do, about ten times before I came to my senses. At that point, the inside of my head was a living hell. A total and complete living hell.

ANY MIDDLE-AGED MAN WHO WILL SLEEP WITH SOMEONE WHO IS TWENTY YEARS HIS JUNIOR IS DANGEROUS. LEGAL AGE OR NOT.

I have had stalkers, I have had men try to force me into their homes, I have been used to the point of wanting to die. And the worst part was that I walked right up and asked them to.

Dude, I understand that you are gonna do what you think is right, but please, take it from someone who literally destroyed himself by age 19. Someone who at 18 had a vaguely promising future. I DESTROYED MYSELF IN EVERY CONCEIVABLE FASHION WITH EXCEPTION TO DEATH BY AGE 19.
Please, take it from me.

Find help. Don't see the horrible shit I saw. Don't almost die. Find help. Don't stop until you do.

 

Hey New,
I'd be really really cautious about doing it with this guy! I understand wanting to lose your virginity, and being frustrated about the lack of sex in your life, but really, having sex with this guy w/o a condom is so dangerous! Where I live, 1/5 gay men have HIV, and that means, that if the stats hold where you live too, there's a 1 in 5 chance this guy can infect you and the one-time sex isn't worth it! And... that's not even counting the other STD's that you could get!

I'd wait until you find somebody who respects your body!

Best of luck,
Liz.

 

Eeep sorry about my above reply ^, I just read the first page, and didn't realize that a decision had already been made.

Good job, mate! You definitely made the right decision!

 

Okay, I'm 18 as well but I've experienced a few seconds of anal sex (lol) when I was 16. It was absolutely amazing - I can't describe to you how good it felt and unfortunately it was all over after a few pushes (he had E.D (as an 18 year old! (Yikes!!))). If anal sex doesn't feel good then you're doing it all wrong. You don't simply push your finger into your anus and expect to start reacting like porn stars do - that's not how it works.
Firstly, the porn stars are in fact actors and secondly, if you want to practice (or finger your self!) you should definitely do it with some thought. For instance: Don't just slide your finger into your anus where ever it'll slide in easiest, because that's not what he'll be doing.
His penis is a vessel, yes. That doesn't mean that his penis is going to be 'soft' (one would hope) when it enters your anus. No, it'll be as hard as a rock!
Go into your bedroom alone, turn on some music (not to set the mood but to hide the noises you may be unknowingly making), make sure your music isn't so loud that is arouses suspicion though. Lock your door; if your door doesn't have a lock on it simply drag a decently weighted piece of furniture in front of your door and/or slide it up against your door so the two are touching. Now - your room is secure (unless your mother was laying on your bed the entire time and you've locked both of you in). Get naked! Once you're naked bend over your bed or flat surface and pretend that you and your boyfriend are about to become intimate. Feel free to play around a little.. pretend he's gently (or roughly) pushing his self in side of you, have fun. Now that you're finished with playing, down to the serious part. If your boyfriend was really behind you while you were bending over that fabulous desk of yours that you love so much, how would his fully erect penis penetrate you? Most likely like this:

o---> *

Crude though that depiction may be - it's accurate. His penis isn't going to do this;

*
/
o/

[I hope that makes sense!]

That being said when you attempt to anally masturbate, REALLY pretend that your finger is your boyfriends penis. Pretend that it's attached to his body and attempt to mimic its movements.

If you're successful (and I doubt you would be) you'll feel a pretty decent sensation that you might find you could go on with for days.
The reason I think you'll be unsuccessful is because you don't know your own anatomy!
Men have two sex organs. One is the penis ((!)) while the other is the prostate.
If anal sex/masturbation is done properly, anal masturbation and sex will feel about a thousand times better than masturbating or being a top.

What the prostate means for sex:
"No matter which method is used it is not possible to touch the prostate directly. The nearest indirect access is through the rectal wall, which means that there is still a membrane in the way. This is somewhat akin to the inhibiting sensitivity a glove. Despite this restriction the lobes of the prostrate are highly sensitive to pressure. An array of sensations may be produced by pressing, rubbing or by means of stroking the gland through the rectal wall. The most profound of these feelings is similar to that sublime sensation which is normally felt during ejaculation, as the prostate begins pumping semen."


I hope my extremely out dated reply helped.