I agree we should try to get past them and just do what makes us happy, but for whatever reason I feel the need for a label. Haha.
I'm happily surprised by the percentage of people that voted in this poll that are bisexual. I knew it would be significant but I didn't expect it to be 37.5%! That makes me happy.
So I have no clue what I am, I thought I was bisexual, but now I don't really know. It feels like I have sexual desires for both, but I don't find anyone attractive anymore and I don't want to do anything with anyone. Thinking about that stuff makes me dissociate.
I could be wrong, but if you don't find anyone attractive and don't want to do anything with anyone, you might be asexual. Again, I could be wrong, but this is my opinion from what you described. If you don't mind me asking, are you a trans female or trans male? From my understanding, this could have a large part to do with it. Age could also have to do with it as well.
42.1% bisexual? This is shocking to me (a good shocking). I've always heard that bisexuals are a very small percentage of the LGBTQ+ community. However, this poll is very contradicting to that narrative...
I'm afab and 27, I have a sex drive though. I just get extremely uncomfortable doing anything intimate and I feel like I'm being forced each time.
Dissociating is something that is normally associated with trauma. You should work through this with your therapist. If after working it through you decide that you still are not interested in being sexual with anyone then that is fine.
It's also possible that you are hyposexual. As defined from the reliable source I found, Hyposexuality is practically the same as asexuality (a lack of sexual, emotional, or affective attraction to anyone). The difference is that, while asexuality defines someones sexual preferences as a norm, hyposexuality is a "consequence of external factors like too much stress at work, or even the result of a medical condition." On the same note, in some contexts, it isn't defined as a sexual orientation, but instead, a transitional phase caused by external factors.
I would agree with @QuietPeace on this. As you are experiencing dissociation, it would be best to work through your feeling with a therapist before trying to find a label.
I'm treatment resistant with therapy as it worsens my conditions, I've tried for years and years but I just get worse. I'm looking into trauma therapy now hoping it will lessen what I feel in some way.
Bisexual tied with homosexual at 45%? I was always told that bisexuals are a very small minority of the LGBTQ+ community. Bisexuals are clearly underrepresented!
As for representation, from what I have read is that a majority (around 80% or more) of bisexual men don’t come out and end up only dating women. For many who are bi is is much easier to date the opposite sex. Obviously societies negative view of homosexuality is a big part of it. Even though today the youngest generation is much more accepting, older generations/people are not. Just spend some time hanging around or working with guys who are in their mid thirties and up who think you are straight. They are far from understanding. It might not be so bad working in tech, sales and etc, but people working in construction, maintenance and manual labor are still pretty old fashioned in their thinking,even though most of them are liberal union members. Now if you can get past the issues above you have to deal with the same sex dating pool being less than 1/20 of the opposite sex. If you have a choice would you not go where you are 20 times more likely to succeed. What is my sexual orientation? Emotional bonding and commitment have always been a priority over sex for me. Not that I don’t like sex, its just not the most important thing. Its in my personality to be that way. Most guys irregardless of sexual orientation seem to be focused on sex. That doesn’t work for me. I have always found women to be much easier to talk to, connect with, bond with and visually more sexually attractive and beautiful. Connecting and relating with guys has always been very difficult for me. Just being friends with a guy is a challenge. My sexual desires and fantasies don’t have much of a direction. I can be aroused and turned on by thinking of or watching porn of either. But I have only ever crushed on and fallen in love with women. With women friendships can go to the next level. With a loving committed relationship sex is making love, without that deep friendship sex is just getting off. Women fit both parts, where guys don’t. If I can’t see someone as a friend then how could I see them as a lover? The more I think about it, the more using the label bisexual seems inauthentic, even here on EC. I have never used a label outside of here and probably never will. While I joined EC to learn more, outside of here I didn’t see any reason to say anything to anyone. Most people are too black and white in their thinking to get it anyway.
I wonder if this has a large part to do with the underrepresentation of bisexuals in the LGBTQ+ community. They're simply not coming out of the closet and joining the LGBTQ+ community, which causes a underrepresentation of the percent of people that are actually bisexual. I think this a large reason why I'm reluctant to come out as bisexual to more people than the few I already have. I heard people (even LGBTQ+ people) make jokes that bisexuals aren't actually bisexual and are just super promiscuous, going through an experimental phase, or will end up gay. Exactly. Having such a larger dating pool, I do find it easier to find women that I'm interested in and more difficult to find men I'm interested in.