Wow my parents are ridiculous

Hi Alexander. If the car's in your name an option is to sell it and continue exactly as you've been doing. This will not only send the message to your parents that you are YOU, and can live your life how you want to, but it will also add a few bucks to your savings for any problems in the future. OR, simply ignor the car and continue with the bus to send the same message. Either way, do what you know is right

 

Could you instead donate it to charity?

If you do decide to give it away, prudence would suggest you should discuss it with your parents first.

You said something a couple of posts up , that caught my eye. You mentioned I saw you with these expensive things, what would I think of you.

I don't want to disparage the progress you have made, but that still seems overly concerned with image. Of all the things you mentioned I couldn't tell them from a whole in the ground. Except the Escalade, which is just a Tahoe with leather seats anyway. Any time I see someone your age driving a newish car I figure their parents let them borrow their car. So to me you just seem like a normal teenager.

Anyone who judges you for having or not having those things is not someone you would want to hang out with anyway.

 

I am disappointed in some of the responses I've read here, I think you're failing to even try to understand the real issues, which Chip has explained a lot better than I could. This is definitely not on the same scale but the whole "substitute presents for affection and the kids won't notice" thing was a favourite of my parents and let me tell you it was painful to be in the middle of. My brother chose to buy me a car when really what he was trying to say was "I was unforgivably rude and hurtful when you came out and I want to make things right." No-one understood why I wasn't overwhelmed with happiness at that either, especially because it was the car I'd wanted for years. All I wanted was him to say that he was sorry for what he did to me, just as all you want Alexander is your independence.

 

In addition to what Chip said, I want to point out that, in a previous thread, Alexander described what his father said to him when he told his father he wanted to be more responsible and independent, and less shallow:

So, basically, they've been buying him all this crap because they think being shallow and spoiled is better than being queer. They are buying him stuff to try to make him not be gay.

Still think he should keep the car?

Alexander: I think you should not accept the car, unless they have actually put the title in your name. In that case, you should accept it, and then sell it, and use the proceeds to help you move out of your parents' house.

 

I curious Alexander, do you plan to go to college?

A nice thing about college, is there are a whole new group of people you don't know. It gives you a chance for a fresh start. Plus maybe you would be able to move out of your parents house, and be on your own for a while. That might help give you some breathing room.

 

Well try seeing it through their eyes if I wanted to go all out and give someone an expensive object and they just gave it away.... I would feel a little upset- maybe they just got the expensive car to show they care for you- and if it bothers you talk to them about it

 

I actually feel quite bad for you, I know it's odd, but I can understand. I've actually been writing a novel to be as independent as I possibly can. I don't like the prospect of my parents escorting me throught life either. Tell them that the lavish, pampered lifestyle is just not what makes you happy.

 

wow
GM charges that much for a terribly built car? no wonder they needed a bail out!

 

Very well said here Chip, and especially your previous post. I've been gone for a month or more, and when I first opened this thread I was amazed at what I was reading from Alexander, these are huge changes you've made for yourself, good job man!

 

I don't pass judgment just based on what brands people are sporting. If they're rich, then so be it. I'm not going to ask someone to act poor if they're not poor. It's when they open their mouth and act as though everyone else is. Or act as though they are somehow better than others for it. Or that everyone else had the same chance.