Would you date a shut-in ?

Probably not. I can be kind of shy and introverted at times but I like to go out and do stuff. I feel really restless if I just sit around all the time. Plus I think it's healthier for me to be around people that do stuff a lot; it's easy for me to just sit around all the time which just makes me lazy and tired and in a bad mood all the time. When I'm forced to go out I feel a lot better and energized.

 

No. Even though I'm a shut-in myself, I'm trying to change my lifestyle. Mainly because I'm not happy with it.

 

i suppose some introverts are shut-ins as well then??? i mean, i'm an introvert and i leave my room/house almost daily and i socialize with people and i go shopping etc etc. but at the end of the day i prefer to stay in my room and read, watch tv, play video games and stuff. idk.

 

I guess that would depend on how much of a shut-in they are. On the days I work, I am so done with humans by the end of the day and I'm happy to go straight home and hide away most of the time. But on my days off I like to go out. Nothing crazy, just to go for a walk or grab food or coffee or whatever. If they couldn't manage at least going out to do that every now and then, then I'd have to say no.

 

I don't think it would work out very well. I go though periods where I want to be in my own little cocoon, but I very much enjoy going out, being social, seeing new places, hiking, going out to eat or even just to watch the Oriole's game at the the local Tavern with a few friends, or to museums...I also like to read and write, but I think I'd go crazy dating one after a while.

I'm the sort who likes to see the world; I'm not sure how I'd be able to share that passion with a shut-in. I have a feeling I'd get bored and restless very quickly.

 

I don't know, that sounds a bit like dating myself! It's preferable to someone who would constantly have to be on the move, and feel resentful or hurt by me staying in on most days. Someone who is a semi-shut-in?

 

Shut-ins can be introverts, but not all introverts are shut-ins. Usually those who are shut-ins, tend to have severe social anxiety, depression, or restrictive house rules. Maybe all of those.

The key difference is, an introvert can still want to go out, they just prefer to be alone or small crowds, but if absolutely necessary can handle larger crowds. A shut-in usually has to be made to go out, and many times a sort of "bribe" has to be made, like a video game they want, a food they want, or being guaranteed only the planned individuals are involved and nobody more. Shut-ins tend to dislike spontaneous changes to plans, especially if those changes mean a larger crowd or crowded place. An introvert, while they may prefer to do similar things, is willing, if necessary, due to their social circle or their own desire to break the mold, to be a bit more outgoing.

Personally, I'm an introvert. I just lucked out on being capable of extroversion, and being damn good at it. Still, at the end of the day, I'd prefer to keep my circle small. Easier to keep tabs on, and more quality time to distribute.

 

I'm open to anything

 

Yup. The only reason I ever go outside is to go to school (or walk the dog, but reluctantly), so I don't see why I wouldn't.

But like Kaiser said, how would I meet them?

 

Eh probably not.

 

Well I will want to let them out of the basement sometimes, I'm not a complete monster. (Just kidding! ...I don't have a basement).


I could date a shut-in but probably not a total shut-in. Mainly because we would at least need to go back and fourth to see each other at all. And it is nice to do things outdoors with someone even if it's just one-on-one. I'm sort of a semi shut in myself although at the moment it's more due so to circumstances, I just don't have the time or energy to go out and about other than for the essentials very often. I do enjoy the many things the outside world has to offer, but I'm usually not so keen on those Other People creatures, so I can totally understand not wanting to mingle much. When it comes to humans there's a few that are pleasant to be around, most are tolerable, some are annoying and a fair few are dicks. I'd probably be much more compatible with someone who didn't desire a large social circle.

 

I would, but I would definitely get bored really quickly. I like to do thing, like going for walks, being outdoor, being outside of my room..

 

Hm. I wouldn't date the opposite of a shut in.

 

I would, since I'm also a shut-in, but I'd like to get out a few times too.

 

Whats a shut in ?

 

I'm not exactly a ''shut in'' these days but I do still suffer from a bit of social anxiety.. I'm not someone who goes out all the time! Living in a shitty pathetic small town doesn't help me either but.. Yeah I would date an INTROVERT because I am one myself a lot of the time. But I can jump between intro to extro depending on my mood so.. Yeah.

Doesn't help that I don't often like many people.

 

Sure. I'm mostly one myself. If I ever get an itching to go out and do something, I could just go with other people.

I don't really think I could live with a shut-in partner though. They'd have to be the type that goes out a lot and sleeps elsewhere many nights.

 

People confuse "shut ins" with other ailments, like any OCD where you are unable to go out, because of an irrational fear of some kind.

But then again, "shut in" is used as a general description for people who never venture outside of their house/apartment/dwelling.

Shut ins can range from housewives stuck at home to invalids who are unable to venture out without a lot of assistance. A lot of "shut ins" are not voluntary situations.



I can be classified as a "shut in", as I rarely go out of my apartment, other than to go to work or the grocery store. But thats my choice, as I have nothing to do on my time off, nor do I have the money or opportunity to venture outside of my apartment otherwise.

As for dating one, well, that is do-able. As long as they are up for one outing a month of some kind.

A lot of self-made shut ins are shut ins because they want to be. They don't want to deal with the reality that is the world, they don't want to deal with all the hateful and vile people, they don't like interacting with "strangers" on any level, and things like that. And it's not that they can't, they just don't want too. It's easier to stay "safe" in your own little world, than to deal with anything on the "outside".

 

I would but I prefer dating homebody's; they like to stay in but occasionally like to go out too. Dating a shut-in would make me feel trapped in the same place after a while.

 

It would depend.