Warning – I think this is quite confusing, but would like your help. Plez Okay, so here is my situation: I can appreciate complete strangers as attractive and (very very very) rarely be attracted to them too. Other than that, I don’t experience sexual attraction other than towards who I trust and like extremely well. I can’t usually be sexually attracted to someone who I feel has a “bad” personality or I don’t like. I can appreciate attractiveness in other people as well but don’t usually feel attracted to them… if that makes sense. I identified as pansexual, but I don’t feel attraction to girls very often. I THINK this is because the girls I know offline can be very shallow and vain. That means that I find it difficult to be sexually attracted to them, because I am “turned off” by their personality. But… because the experience of attraction is so very rare, I question my sexuality. Am I just gay? Am I polysexual? Am I demisexual? Am I all of them?! Am I just this weirdo guy? I know, I know, labels are unhealthy, but they comfort me. And not knowing scares me. I’d really appreciate EC’s wisdom :3
This all sounds very very familiar to me. And I thiiink it's closest to Demi. I can tell when someone is attractive, but don't want to sleep with them unless I feel a strong emotional bond. For a while I thought I was asexual. But now I don't know. There is probably a difference between the frequency you and I experience sexual attraction, but it sounds like the same general spectrum. And I think if we wanted to label it, 'Demi' might be the most accurate label at the moment.
Why are people getting this idea that labels are bad, and unhealthy honestly ? Ok I can get that the way some people use them are bad but where are people getting this from . Anyway I think the label you picked for yourself is probably, just about right plus it's the company; Your keeping your not around women with the nicest personality ,but If I was around the same women you described I would feel asexual .
