Wishing I Had a Penis

Have you heard of the term "autoandrophilia"? It means "sexual arousal of a woman by imagining herself as a man".
Regardless of gender, the penis is seen typically as the dominant organ, a bit like you said. You can identify as female and have a desire to have a penis w/o wanting to identify as male.
I can relate that having a penis can be a very arousing thought in fantasies.
I met a guy a couple of months ago who I think is bigendered, would love to be a woman but would want to keep their penis. I mean, even though I don't know wgat it's like to have one, they do seem awesome to have and more... efficient than a vagina

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Something tells me some experience with real women might disabuse the OP of certain porn-rooted notions...

Just keep things in perspective, hon. Which means enjoy it all you can in fantasy. Not many of us are able (or want) to live out congruent fantasies in real life.

 

"Dominant organ?" Making love shouldn't be about domination; if it is, um... weird. And I thought that the brain was the dominant organ.

 

Yeah. If sex is just penetration and thrusting, you're doing it wrong. :lol:

 

Guys. There are people with semen related kinks and that involves being jizzed on. It's something that's not confined to porn. Also, in regards to domination: BSDM.

 

:eek:If that is what women like, I am doomed to celibacy. :roflmao:

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Yes but eww. It's called a fetish for a reason.

 

...Good grief. You're acting like women are going to gross out at anything but missionary, in the dark.

 

All true. As I said in my post, all about perspective. All too possible to find such people in certain kink/"fringe" communities. Just hoping the OP will realize that the porn-suggested paradigm in which all females desperately crave to be covered in cum (ugh) is pure fantasy. If she wants to find someone with whom she can live out that fantasy (in some form or other), she's probably prudent to anticipate that it's best not to attempt such a thing on a girl she hasn't specifically met through a fetish connection.

 

Nooooo... :lol: I didn't say that but there are plenty of ways to make love without drifting off into fetish-land.

 

Except, for some people they like that. They get off on it. If you don't want to do it, fine and dandy, but don't look down on people who do.

 

It's a fetish. I can look down on a fetish.

 

Let's trade, please.

 

I fail to see why one would do such if both parties are adults and consenting. After all, what two people do in their bedroom has no bearing on you and your life.

 

Can we just all agree that penises (like vaginas) are pretty awesome and leave it at that?

 

Sure.

 

Apologies for derailing the thread further, but while there's no law saying you can't look down on it, I can assure you there are many of us that do not care for that attitude (myself included).


It harms no one and the individuals engaging in it are consenting. Considering that, I see no reason to cast a negative light on anyone, and such is simply unkind.

 

I'm kind of like this too. I know I'm not trans, but I wish I had a penis for sexual reasons. A strap-on doesn't cut it; you still can't "feel" your partner inside so it takes the intimacy away. I consider myself an exclusive top, so not having the tool for that can get depressing. Even if strap-ons are possible; a lot of people would want to "switch" it just seems more comfortable being a straight guy where there's less pressure to switch roles.

And to me It's not just penetration either. I think all sex acts are beautiful and intimate in their own way, but I don't like having my natural genitalia touched at all. I'd rather receive a blowjob than cunnilingus (yuck). Having female parts have completely turned me off from ever wanting a sex life, I probably could only be happy with a sex life with male parts.

I don't know what it makes me. I don't feel like a man or want to socially be a man, but I feel like I also have body dysphoria like trans people do (to the point of self-harming). It's confusing for some of us.

I think yours is just a fetish though, OP

 

(*hug*) Heaven knows why these things have to be so confusing for some of us. It's like there aren't nearly enough biological options for the number of gender and identity variations out there. Science is making some headway, but progress is slow.

 

I'm sorta afraid to say anything but it sounds like just a fetish

 

There's always Anonymous forum if you don't feel comfortable sharing as yourself.