why does it take some lesbians along time to figure out their lesbian ?

bisexuality never impiled that you had to date both or go out with both and it's not missleading if a bisexual woman only date women there are bisexual women that date only men and sleep with women so what's wrong if it's the other way it's around what are bisexual women so scared of if they only like women for relationships are you scared of the men telling you your not bisexual ? another thing is calling yourself a lesbian is you make it look like lesbians sleep with men and that's not cool lesbians already have a lot to deal with on there plate we don't need people making this myth look real I get harass by men on a daily basis and one of the reason I hadn't come out is this crap that gets thrown around and I'm honestly sick of it . Yes bisexuality has a lot of stigma but that is not a reason to run and hide if you want people to change their mind about bisexual show them that your not the stigma by being your true self . And some people can be cut and dry it's called being a lesbian when you don't want anything sexual to do with a guy if you want sex with both men that's what makes us different from bisexual women we have no desire to sleep with men . and women you are bisexual bisexuality never said how much you needed to like both sexes or that you should date both . Now the funny thing is now your creating a new stigma for lesbians now people will think we're bisexual now .
Lesbian only like women
bisexual likes both men and women sexually
call yourself what you want but stop running around saying lesbian like sleeping with men because we don't .
Would I be bisexual then if I was only sexually attracted to women and want nothing to do with men ? because by your logic I can call myself a bisexual even if I'm not one .
and if a gay person thinks it's easy to come out as bi even if their not then shouldn't they be able to do that if they want ? because you can use labels the way you want without caring how it affects the community
When you say you don't want to date both men and women and it makes some not bi because they don't want to date both don't you know your feeding into a stigma about bisexuals that they date both at the same time .
would you then say a straight man that sleeps with men is still straight because he called him self straight ? Oh wait you'll call him gay because I guess in your mind only women can be fluid right . Which I honestly think is the huges myth ever because I'm pretty sure if we put a woman in the same example I guess she's just straight and not bi because it's just sex .
Because sex doesn't count in sexual orientation funny but I wonder why is it called sexual orientation if who you sleep with doesn't count at all

 

Well your right I misinterpreted sorry about that forgive I've had a shitty month with men using this bull crap fluidly crap on me to get in my pants so sorry for getting upset .
But now I get what your saying thanks for clearing it up . :icon_bigg

 

One of the things I've found most puzzling is when a lesbians ends up having romantic feelings for one guy in her life everyone would push her to label herself as bi even if she never felt it for other guys ever in her life and just that one man and tell her she's not a lesbian and can even risk being called a traitor or even kicked out of the lesbian community .
but if a woman is bisexual and just sleeping with men and just dating women she gets a pass to call herself a lesbian even though she's bi .
but the first girl I described would be kicked out forever just for that one guy .
sure figuring out your sexuality is tricky that's for sure . even if your lesbian or bisexual .

---------- Post added 25th Jun 2014 at 06:04 PM ----------

Lol I thought like you when I was a teen I use to think everyone was fluid and a bit bi back then , now I kinda figured out that's not the case and far from the truth

 

One thing I'm sure is not sexual attraction if this helps is if you think a guy or girl looks handsome or good looking or attractive to me it doesn't count as sexual attraction
sexual attraction is desire to have sex with a person .
but some people think thinking some one looks good or hot is sexual attraction and that's why I've seen some gays and lesbians label themselves a kinsey scale 5 and that's why I think 5's are still gay .

 

It's kinda like a feeling you get in your genitals where you want bond with someone but with your body .

 

being that your genderless too that can cause some confusion

 

I heard that as a girl too but for some reason I was more drawn to girls and my first kiss was with a girl .

I remember one guy on a blog had a definition that made more sense that the dictionary one about lesbians
I think it was
a woman who is attracted to women and female identified persons . I liked his definition of lesbian the best out of any I've ever saw . it makes it more easier for others to figure out if we defined it as that .

 

I'm glad you like it i wish I could find his blog ,:icon_sad: I think it's the best definition out there .