I know this is a stupid question, but why do men think about sex regularly? I mean it is nice and all most of the time, and I love the feeling of sensation it gives me but sometimes I hate thinking about it, because I tend to look down on myself for thinking about sex. I feel bad about it even though it is a normal thing. I have heard since I was a teenager that guys think about sex every second of the day. Now, I do not think that is true, but I think guys do think about sex a lot. Do any of you guys have a problem with thinking about sex on a regular basis?
Hmm, well I have that same feeling of guilt I suppose, because I feel dirty thinking about it myself. I see myself trying to set a good example for other men, who often are lost and confused. They just don't seem to get their partners are more then bodies. Still, I occansionally make jokes with my friends about it in general, but I hate when they bring up a specific person. So I'm kinda mixed with my feelings on talking about it? I am light-hearted, so jokes on most things don't bother me.
I think guys tend to think a lot about sex partly because it's biological. We're always able to "breed" so that's why we tend to be more sexual than women (who only ovulate roughly once a month). Since we are always potent, our instincts take over and make us want to have sex. I also think it's partly due to the society we live in. Movies, shows, commercials, etc have all become over-sexualized, leading us (mostly guys) to think about sex more often. I don't think it's always a bad thing but it CAN become unhealthy if you think about it constantly.
Yeah, I do think about sex a lot, mostly because I don't have it as much as I'd like. And because it's, well, great...
No guilt here, either. It's a natural bodily function and it is at the base of the pyramid on Maslow's hierarchy of needs, IIRC. An interesting question might be if there is a difference in how much guys think about it compared to women and if their motivations are the same. I think guys are just horny bastards all the way around! If guilt has been introduced into the equation for anyone, it's because of all the moralizing modern society has layered on. I don't think cavemen gave guilt much thought and, if 3% to 4% of the population is consistently gay (or lesbian), then they probably also tugged at another caveman's loin cloth with fervor and without pangs of guilt. The only big and problematic emotion I could see among cave dwellers would be jealousy - they probably resorted to some pretty drastic measures when someone encroached on their turf.
i have no prooblems with it because i live sex on daily basis they dont call me axel the swag muffin for nuffin(!)
I'm a pre-everything trans* guy, and I feel like I think about it more/have a way higher sex drive than cisgender females do…. but technically, I only ovulate once every six weeks. So how does that work?
Hormones, I suppose? I'm always horny and it's quite annoying sometimes. My libido is up and down sometimes. Probably because it feels good and our mind associates sex with dopamine. More sex = more dopamine. At least that's what I think (and something I definitely believe when it comes to porn).
In my late 20's, lo those many eons ago, I was diagnosed 'gender dysphoric' (etc.) and, among other things, was placed on HRT, taking conjugated estrogens. After about six months my sex drive was reduced, and the longer I was on estrogen the less and less I thought about sex. Of course, I still thought about it, and acted on it occasionally, but it's importance was lowered significantly. It had to be a part of something more; sex for it's own sake wasn't even a consideration. Soon after I ran away from my self and my transition a couple years later, and went off estrogen, those dangly bits started coming back to life - with a vengeance. The bodily rush I would feel when sexually aroused was like a drug's. It had never been like that before, and it was maddening. I'd become hornier than I'd ever been - all the damn time. So, the lesson I took from that experience is that most men are testosterone addicts. The addiction takes hold gradually, over adolescence, but by adulthood men are addicted and don't even realize it. And that is why men think about sex every 20 proverbial seconds.
I felt bad too at first, now I just don't care, because I know it's natural. Sex releases dopamine in the brain which is the brain's reward mechanism, causing us to keep chasing after that reward, part of that includes thinking about the reward too. It's biological mechanism, that's all.
It feels good, brings up thoughts of love and relationships, and is a natural part of life for many of us. You could say hormones also play a part, as well as it being in the media and what all, but even so, sex has always been an important and fascinating topic. Important, no doubt, and not something you should feel bad about, unless it involves self-destructive behavior, and is interfering with everyday activities.
I'm pre t too and I think I have a sex drive way too high for someone who's female bodied. I never gave it a thought until I realized I was trans but now, I think about it frequently :icon_redf
It always seems dirty to me if it's not rooted in love or at least some sort of closeness. But then again I've always been an odd duck even for a gay man. But yes, thinking about sex isn't a bad thing.
I'm reminded of the time I went to get a massage on a cruise ship. They had me fill out a form first. Before starting, the masseur looked me over, then looked over the survey. He said "Um, it says here 'are you bothered by dry skin?', and you checked 'no'. But you have some of the driest skin I think I've ever seen." I responded "You didn't ask if I had dry skin. You asked if I was bothered by it." Do I think about sex on a regular basis? Hell yes. Do I have a problem with it? Hell no. I think sex is amazing and awesome - why would I have a problem with it? Lex