What's the difference between finding some attractive and being attracted to them?

I'm not gay but I think it's completely normal to find the opposite sex attractive even if you're gay. As long as you're not attracted to someone in a sexual way, just purely aesthetic, it doesn't have to say anything about your sexual orientation. You can just think that a girl is pretty, just like you can see a flower or a sunset and think that it's pretty. Also you might just recognize that someone is objectively attractive, and has the qualities that are considered attractive by current beauty standards.
I think that a lot of gay men find women beautiful - there are a lot of gay małe fashion designers who design clothes for women. Of course they must know which clothes would make women look flattering.

 

I'm A gay man and I find women attractive to look at. The reason I know that I am gay and not straight or even bi is because I have no desire at all to have sex with a woman or even a romantic relationship. For me those attractions are only for men.

 

Yes! Look at all the gay men in the women's fashion industry.
Women can be beautiful, sensual, alluring and even sexy.

 

The distinction between these two things is a huge part of why I still question my sexuality lol. I can find men very attractive physically. I’ve seen many men I thought were beautiful or had nice features. However, when it comes to actually wanting to be in a relationship with a man and all that that entails, I don’t know if I’m actually attracted to them irl. So I’ve been wondering for a while now if I’m actually gay instead of bi.

 

I find women attractive, but I don't get aroused or sexually fantasize about women.

When I was in denial or confused, it is because I consciously wanted to be attracted and in a relationship with women, but the unconscious natural impulses just weren't there. When it came to natural sexual arousal, it was always about men.

 

I'm a lesbian. When it comes to men, I can see when they are attractive. Although yes, beauty can be subjective. I think that I have a good eye for men's fashion. Sometimes I help my male friends pick out an outfit for their dates.

However, I've never wanted to kiss a guy. I've never felt that sense of warm fuzziness that makes you want to stay with them. To hold their hand and forget about the world momentarily. I more so just feel indifferent.

 

For me, being in a relationship with a guy feels just right. I’ve never been in a long term relationship with a woman and haven’t ever wanted to, but I do think the chemistry, physical desire and those feelings of intense closeness that I get with women is a lot stronger. I’m more drawn by the female body, it is far more erotic and sexy than men. The male body I’m probably more jealous of than anything else, I love how strong and capable men are and I think that’s what I find sexiest about men, especially a guy in peak condition. I also love that mental conflict between the idea of being with someone who is so much bigger and more powerful than you, they could do anything they wanted and you wouldn’t have a hope of stopping them, and yet at the same time you feel more protected and safe than ever.