What helped you when trying to figure out if you were gay or not? For me it was Well no matter what happens at the least Im going to be a supporter :lol:
Movies, TV, books. Specifically? Uhh... I started with a few movies (Loving Annabelle, DEBS, few others) then started streaming tv shows online, uhh... South of Nowhere, Lost Girl, The L Word. Then came books... I think when I read 28 lesbian romances in 30 days I pretty much figured it out :lol: My budget was shot that month.
An impending divorce while thinking about a future with the right woman at last...then finally realizing that there is no right woman for me...
I can't for the life of me remember what triggered it all in the first place, but I do remember random, smaller incidents over time after whenever that was that kinda brought things to light. It just added up with my lack of genuine interest in girls growing up. I guess I may have shrugged some incidents off, not getting my real feelings towards them initially, but ones like this made it pretty obvious I guess. I remember seeing this Kmart Christmas commercial last year while I was visiting relatives and something about it feeling...off. Only after I saw it at a later date, by myself, did I notice why. I kinda had this... relaxed feeling(?) I guess, like a 'now this is my kinda commercial' type of thing. For anyone who's curious what commercial, it was this one o,o :icon_redf (though I remember a slightly shorter version playing): http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=P8Ol7SQVFG4
I think that watching some tv shows has helped me realize I am into girls... And then I just looked at forums and websites for gay/bi people, and it kind of just went on.
Tumblr mostly. Everyone on tumblr is really supportive and pro-LGBT. and I also owe a lot to porn for helping me find out what I'm into lol
I know this will sound weird but Drag Queens. I am a Lesbian and seeing someone go from a man to a woman made me realize that even though they still have masculine features i liked the more girly version better. I watched RuPaul's Drag Race which got me into the LGBT community and I had already had been feeling things towards woman so that just really helped me discover myself.
Being totally honest... My crotch. It was my first inkling; being totally serious, as hilarious as that may sound. The mind shortly rationalized afterwards.
When I realized for years of my life since I found, out I like girls at 8 that I am not attracted to men and my attraction to women was not going away ,and I just couldn't make myself be attracted to men no matter how much I forced myself to . I know gay people hate when other gay people say this but I tried very hard to be straight and to like men and I just couldn't . another thing that helped is when I couldn't understand or relate to women who were sexually attracted to men or wanted romantic relationships with them , I just couldn't get why they craved men sexually or wanted to be with them . or how a girl could cry over a guy .
Falling in love with someone and not know who the person was.. A girl or a guy.. I met my ex girlfriend through role playing on Facebook and we were both guy characters and we began to fall in love out of character in real life with each other and we didn't know until at least a month after we both confessed how we felt that we were both girls.. So for me.. It was the personality and who she was inside, not what she looked liked on the other side and what she did or didn't have in her pants. That's when I first thought I might be pansexual.
Well, I didn't realize I was gay until a few years ago. I thought I was bi for a number of years, despite only really being interested in dating a woman. I guess, you could say it was a form of denial. Eventually I had to admit that I can't see myself in relationship with a guy. I noticed my attraction to women when I was in my early twenties. I'm not sure how exactly it started. I just couldn't get it off my mind. Internet and lgbt movies helped me to accept it and feel better about it. And then I knew I wanted to date a girl, so I tried meeting some girls online and I found myself attracted to some of them.
