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What do you find the hardest/most anoying part about being gay?

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  1. SemiCharmedLife

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    Worrying about people's reactions
     
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    Having to take that look around first before deciding whether to kiss, hold a hand, say I love you etc.
     
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    Parents not being understanding/accepting.
     
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    Parents not being understanding/accepting. Also finding a relationship because I'm more masculine than the sterotypical gay guy and it seems that even other gay guys tend to stick to the stereotypes.
     
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    Feeling like I have to educate every single fing person about our culture. Seriously, no trans person is trying to lie to get to your kid, they just have to pee. No Femmes do not want to date a man, just because they date Butches, and yes Lipstick Lesbians ARE sure they are gay. I get so tired of ignorance....
     
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    Having a huge crush on a friend that interferes with the friendship

    Also meeting people/dating
     
    #26 Psaurus918, Apr 16, 2016
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    Trying to get your friends to accept it -_-
     
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    finding out who also prefers female and realizing that all of the crushes I had so far were straight (or at least not telling me otherwise).

    And having to always prove otherwise than being hetero and cis normative in this society.

    I cannot decide which one annoys me more...
     
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    Living around homophobes, and having to pretend you're one too so they don't lose their shit or worse. :dry:
     
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    For me, it's probably that I'm terrified of flirting with girls in case they think I'm creepy.

    Not that I flirt at all, but hypothetically, around a guy I would just be awkward, but around a girl (unless I knew they weren't straight) I physically could not do it.
     
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    For me, the worst part about being queer is finding other queer folks with no solidarity and no understanding of their history.
     
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    Hear hear!
     
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    finding a boyfriend
    dealing with peoples ignorance
    feeling like an outsider even in the gay community
    wishing there were more gay people in the world
     
    #33 Andrew99, Apr 18, 2016
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    You just read my mind. :grin:
     
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    It isn't 10% of people that are gay. It's only 1.5%
     
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    ^^^^This right here.
     
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    You have to choose between being out to your coworkers and bosses or keeping your job.
     
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    ^^ this! OMG! Yes!!!!!!
    I get frustrated with that as well.
     
    #38 Lipstick Leuger, Apr 18, 2016
  19. ThetasTrust

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    Straight crushes are the hardest for me. I obsess over them only to find that they are hopelessly straight

    ---------- Post added 18th Apr 2016 at 09:19 PM ----------
    This too
     
    #39 ThetasTrust, Apr 18, 2016
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    Straight people assuming I'm straight. Gay people assuming I'm straight. Everyone else assuming I'm straight. People thinking I'm dating my close female straight friends. Basically everyone (even other lgb+ people) assuming I'm straight. Me assuming I'm straight for the first dozen years of my life. Me almost fitting a stereotype of a gay guy (musical theater is my life, and I act really feminine).

    Sorry for the rant guys. You asked for it.
     
    #40 SimonSnow, Apr 18, 2016
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