Were you interested in the opposite sex before you knew you were gay?

Yes yes yes YES. I had a crush on my best friend in grade school who was a girl. Didn't know it wasn't... "normal" or whatever. Just happened.

 

Actually yes, yes I was.
When I was in preschool and elementary school I had these two best friends who were female like me. One was always serious but had fun (A), and one was very funny (L) and I loved being around her.
When I was in preschool I wore a necklace to school one day that rang like a bell when you shook it. I did this saying: "So L can find me on the playground!"
Still around that time I was in the shower and pretended to shave using a bath toy claiming: "I have to look good for L!"
In elementary school I was in the car with my Mom and I asked her: "Is it possible for two women to get married?" Having L in my mind.
This was when I didn't know that I might be Bi, I didn't even know what somebody's sexual orientation meant!
So that was my first time I think.

 

To be honest, I was never interested in the opposite sex except maybe when I forced myself to because that's what's "normal."

I think that's one of the things that I saw as a sign when I finally confronted the thought of OMG! I MIGHT BE GAY!!! When have I ever been interested in the opposite sex? In retrospect, never.

The only reason I ever really looked at guys was when other girls--my friends--did. I would chime in passively. Something I remember about my little sister, who is so close to me in age, is that I watched her grow up and go through the same things as I did pretty much around the same time. When she started noticing guys, commenting on guys ("he's so hot!" etc. etc.) I would just chime in passively, once again, without thinking, and just agree to agree. I think I did it because it was expected of me. From the time I started being attracted to people (I always say 11/12 because that's roughly the time) I've been attracted to women. I've never been attracted to men. But I was not conscious of attraction 'til later.

There were never any signs that I was attracted to the opposite sex, but because I (as a woman) am supposed to be attracted to the opposite sex--because I am expected to--there were times I forced myself to. These were the times I was confronting my straight/not straight identity, when I would force myself to look at men and decide (quite analytically) if I was attracted to them. Before that, I knew I was attracted to women--organically, without forcing myself to, I just was, and it wasn't a problem because I wasn't conscious of it in relation to what is "normal". I never gave much thought to it until I was about 16. Around then I asked myself very seriously, "Am I a lesbian?"

The immediate answer, of course, was a resounding, "No!" I didn't want to be a lesbian because that wasn't normal in my mind--the idea was so ingrained that I refused to admit it to myself. So--contrary to the evidence that I was not, in fact, straight--I went about denying that I could be gay and kept thinking of myself as straight. I avoided that confrontation and kept telling myself things like, "It's perfectly normal for straight girls to watch lesbian porn and fantasize about women." I never looked at men sexually or romantically, ever, not once that I can remember.

So yeah, TL;DR I've never been attracted to men until I tried to force myself to and that didn't work out because you can only lie to yourself for long.

 

I certainly did. I loved girls. How things change!

 

this, i totally agree, im not gonna pretend or be something im not anymore, never been interested in girls or women, although i was great at socializing throughout my younger years, the girls took it as something else and made little fantasy's out of it, and i would pretend that it was because that's what is expected of me by people, and growing up with 2 older brothers doesnt really help that either.

ive said this before somewhere in the older posts but this is why i never comment on threads where people are trying to figure out their sexuality, because for me ive always known, even when i didnt know what gay was, and its hard for me to understand why people are only starting to get it now or even older ages

 

Completely. I'm still a bit attracted to guys, but not much anymore.

 

I'm confused on this subject now too. I've always been attracted to men as far back as i can remember, but in a "i want to touch you" sort of way. Whereas with woman it was always more of a curiosity like "hmm, what does this feel like" haha. but it wasnt until i was around 21 that i started questioning if i actually like women or if I'm just pretending to so i can fit in and be what people expect me to be...at this point i am still physicaly attracted to woman, but i constantly think about men, emotionally and sexually...
i know its probably different if ur gay, bi is a confusing thing. id much rather it be one or the other

 

Yeah. I had a really confusing 2 year 'crush' on a girl. When I look at it now though, I think it's just cause she's a great person, haha.

 

Yes, very much so... although I still am to some degree now, so I don't know if I really count.

 

Still questioning the possibility of being lesbian/bi... But back when I assumed I was straight, I did indeed feel as though I might be asexual and die a virgin. Because while I had boyfriends, I never wanted to do anything physical with them... So I forced myself to have sex with a guy fling just because I didn't want to die a virgin. But now that I'm looking at girls, damn I'm finally realizing where my sex drive is directed towards. So yes, I did like the opposite sex (not sure if I still do now), I had crushes on them but didn't want to be with them physically.

 

no. although i had boyfriends i only did it cuz it was what everyone was doing.
wasnt till i was 16 i grew the balls to go my own way and do my own thing

 

well, define "interested" ^^
since I was 12 or 13 or so I thought I was bi becasue I felt attracted to boys and girls but I never thought about it much...
I always thought about having sex with men but never in the true sense "boy/girl sex"...
I only ever liked naked men up to their belly button - I wasn't interested in the parts that came after...
And last year I fell in love - with a girl and all of my interest for men vanished... I have no interest in them what so ever anymore... ^^