Previously I had mostly cut my dad out of my life. He's evangelical and believes being gay to be a sin and a choice, and has compared it to both adultery ("we still have desires but don't act on them") or even murder ("struggling with same-sex desire doesn't mean God made him gay, just like struggling with anger doesn't mean God made him a murderer"). That said, I've had the desire to make an attempt to get to know the man before he became this way, and we had a really nice visit where he told me about his childhood and his parents, where I got to see a bit more of his humanity. I had hoped that after a few more visits like that, it might come up naturally that my (male) partner is moving out because I'm actually a lesbian... that getting to know each other might soften that blow in his eyes. However, I had planned to see him for his birthday 2 weeks ago, but he had other plans, and this weekend is my son's birthday, which he said he also had plans. The rest of my family knows (and is accepting) so since he wouldn't be there, I figured I'd wait to come out some other time. Dad texted me last night saying his plans were canceled and he's coming over! Now I'm sure my sexuality wouldn't come up naturally in conversation, but things like, "so how are you and Partner doing? Do you have any plans this summer?" etc might, and I didn't want him to overhear other members of my family discussing things or make anyone feel they needed to avoid any topic... so I'm going to call him -- in half an hour! -- as I'm on the road. My plan is just to get straight to the point and keep it simple... something like, "I'm so glad you'll be able to make it for your grandson's birthday party! I just wanted to call to let you know that while Partner and I still love each other and are on good terms, I'm actually a lesbian, so he'll be moving out soon. If you'd like to talk about it or have questions we can talk now or in person tomorrow, but just wanted to let you know!" Regardless of how it actually comes out, I'm just going to breathe, do my best in that moment, and let go of trying to control the outcome. And at least this way he'll have some time to process it before he comes by, or can change his mind about coming by at all if he so desires. Wish me luck!! I'll update on how it goes (probably tomorrow).