I finally did it. I told my mom this morning. We were driving home from a nearby city (about 90 miles away) and the whole time I was coming up with ways that I could tell her that I was gay. When we were about 2/3rds of the way home, I finally tried to tell her. This is how our conversation went. "Hey Mom. Can I tell you something?" "Sure. Of course you can." For some reason then I just sat there, unable to spit out the words that I needed to. "Just say it whenever you can, it's okay." "Mom," I struggled to say," I'm gay." "So?" I didn't really know how to respond to that. At the same time I was fighting back the urge to start crying. "I love you no matter what." Still silent, I just sat there as she continued on. "It's nothing to be ashamed of. You're still you. And you're not alone. You know your Aunt Jude (she's like a second mom to me)? Did you ever wonder why she's single?" "She's a lesbian?" "Yep." "So she'd be okay with me telling her that I was gay?" "Of course." She said. "But moving on, you know you're going to meet some resistance in the world, especially around here." Then the rest of the car ride home we just talked. How my dad would react, how my brother would feel, and how I should just say strong. I'm so lucky to have the mom that I do. Now that I've told her, I don't understand why I was so afraid to tell her. And through this whole coming out process, from the time I told the first person I was gay last year to my mom this year, EmptyClosets has been there for me. Thanks you guys. But Im still not finished; I've still got to tell my dad and ten announce it to the rest of the world.
wow!! Your mom is awesome! Congrats for having the courage many struggle to muster. I still need to tell my family - my mom's bi and she's in a lesbian relationship at the moment and both my aunts are fine with the LGBT community....I just can't seem to get the balls to just say it....your story is inspiring.
Congratulations! I'm so glad your mom is so supportive. And it's great to know that you have a gay aunt. (However, I am sort of disturbed by the implication that gay people, or lesbians in particular, are necessarily single... you know that's not true, right?)
Sweet! Proud of you, for the courage to speak up for who you are. And what a great mother you have! HUGS to you and give her hugs too -- and tell her you love her, too, always.
Congrats man! moms are usually the most understanding parent, my mom took it pretty much just like yours did so I can understand that feeling of happiness . Good luck with your dad and your brother and I hope everything turns out the same way .
I am so happy for you! It takes a lot of courage to come out to your loved ones, especially if you don't know what their reaction will be like. Congratulations on a job well done!