I know I am male, even if it took a few years to come to terms with it. But sometimes I wonder, "Why can't I just be a cisgender heterosexual woman? Why am I a gay transgender man? It seems as if I'm purposely trying to give myself a harder life." Now, I know this isn't true- I can't help my gender identity nor my orientation. But I almost feel as if people will question me for this when I'm out, because I've heard this before (from a relative) and I'd rather not hear it again- "I don't understand as to why Caitlyn Jenner is a lesbian. I mean, if he... she?- Is going to be a woman, she might as well be attracted to men." Agh. I hate when people think like that. Do any of my lovely gay transmen and lesbian transwomen have similar thoughts, or have had people say something like that to you? I'm not necessarily seeking advice, I'm just wondering if people have had experiences like this.