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Threesomes.

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by Hickeys, Nov 10, 2018.

  1. Hickeys

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    So, I’m in a new relationship with this guy and a few nights ago because I brought up a story about a threesome a friend of a friend had, he asked me about my “Sexual bucket list” to fulfill before I get married . I don’t really have one but he does and one of his is to have a threesome at some point before then. He said it wasn’t the sort of thing where he has to have one, that’s why it’s just on his “bucket list” but I’m curious as to whether that’s true or not...I know that personally I could never have a 3some that involved someone I am dating because... well, I’m too jealous and possessive for that. I’m just curious as to how many of you guys (targeting everyone) do have that sort of thing on your lists?
     
  2. Love4Ever

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    Well I would like to have a threesome. I've thought about it and it seems fun. Only with people I liked and trusted though who liked each other and me though. It would be cool to have one with a man and a woman but any combination would be fine. I've never had sex with either sex so if there was one of each that would accomplish that I guess. I don't know. I mean, I don't know if logistically that would actually ever work out, since I have no idea how people do these things organically because I don't want to just have a random hookup with strangers I don't know. So short answer yes, in the right circumstances, I would do it. But there are also limitations on what I'd be willing to do. I'm not into certain things and the other people would have to accept that.
     
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    I feel like it's a pretty common fantasy though and I wouldn't be surprised if a lot of people have thought about it hypothetically and considered it.
     
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    I think it is a common fantasy regardless of if it is ever achieved. I had them when in my teens but I was rebelling at the time against my mom wanting me to be straight. I don't think I have ever met irl someone who at one time did not think about a threesome.
     
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    I’ve never had one before but I thought about it, not sure if I could ever do it. I’m very jealous so I don’t know know if I could watch my spouse having sex with someone or it might be a turn don’t know. Definitely a experience that I wouldn’t forget lol.
     
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    I think it's a fairly common fantasy. In my experience it doesn't live up to the hype. It's just an awful lot of elbows...
     
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    I'm with you - I'm way too jealous for that kinda thing aha
     
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    Those are the sorts of things that often sound great on paper, but may not be in "real" life. I think you need to know the kind of person you are. You've already said you wouldn't be into it because you'd be jealous. I would be the same way. Call me old-fashioned, but I would have no desire to watch my partner having sex with another person. Like you, I'd wonder if they thought the other person was more attractive, had bigger "parts" or was just better in bed. Personally, the only way I would ever consider a threesome is if I were the third person. Of course, that may just be me...
     
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    It was definitely on my list, and I've had some threesomes now. Two guys, two girls, and one of each. It's pretty fun at first just because it's a new novelty thing and it's exciting to have another person, but then it wears off because it's kind of awkward and someone always gets left out or pushed off to the side just because it's pretty hard to include all 3 people at once. Foursomes on the other hand are pretty great, because then everyone can always be included, you just switch who is doing it with who every few minutes until you've all been with each other.
     
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    For me under the right circumstances, it could probably happen. It is not one of the things I feel is a must to knock off, but with the right guys in the right place who knows. But I am like you in regards to not wanting to share my partner. I would still be open-minded to it and with the right partner maybe I would be less anxious towards doing it do it, so I say keep an open mind but if you really aren't down for it, don't do it. A relationship obviously only works through compromise and sacrifice but if you do not want to share your partner that is one thing you DEFINITELY shouldn't have to do
     
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    I agree with the foursome principle. It just seems more balanced? I was actually going to suggest that is an alternative to a threesome.
     
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    Hm, a foursome was a interesting idea to add... he’s very set on the threesome in his mind being two girls since he is straight even though I am bisexual. I really don’t think I could have any sort of threesome/foursome if it wasn’t a spontaneous hook up with entirely friends or people I had met. Because I feel if we did have a foursome there’s no way I’d be cool with a total of three girls haha. And on the other hand if it was two guys well it’d feel a bit like a weird college orgy to me.
     
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    I've had threesomes and foursomes and love it. If you're in a relationship or crushing on any of the participants and the jealous type you'll most likely not like it. Or if you're the type that needs the attention then it might not be good.
    Depending on the arrangement everyone can participant but if not with the right oriented people someone can be left out.
    I think for many people its just a fantasy. But if its on a bucket list then seems like its something he wants to do.
     
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    I had a threesome with a female friend and her boyfriend. But it mostly ended with she and I making out while he watched
     
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    I’d be way too jealous. Unless it was with 2 rando’s but I’m not really into hookups so.
     
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    I had a threesome in a previous relationship, and that is why it is previous, he enjoyed it more than I did and started have it with others. I think if you wanna try that set up guidelines and rules. Especially if he is a keeper.
     
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    I have had a few 3 some 1- mmf and 1-ffm
    And a 4 some mmff.
    My gf at the time knew I was bi and wanted my guy friend to join us. It was wierd at first when him and I did things with her there and I did not think I would like it with her and him together. It was nice having two ppl I cared about being together. The ffm
    Was rough trying to keep 2 girls happy was a task. The 4 some was fun everyone played together. Just make sure if you do it you talk it way through before hand
     
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    If the Internet has shown us anything (besides cat videos) it is that this is the most common fantasy. The partners that I have had have, oh so tentatively, broached the subject, and were vastly relieved when I didn't say OMG that's disgusting.

    But it's not just like going to a movie. Boundaries should be discussed. Etc etc just like everybody said.
     
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    Under the right circumstances, it is fun and fulfilling. Spouse and I have had a few, and I loved it. Unfortunately, the third person was not the right one for us on all occasions. I wouldn't mind another one, but current circumstances prevent us from it.
     
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    Love yr reply, the thread does not have a like button.....
    When I was still with my wife I would have LOVED another guy to join us but she thought I'm pervey....I don't agree....
    Now I'm alone but would like a threesome with two guys....but I can't even get one lol....
    Don't know why some people get so hung up...if we're all consenting adults, what's the problem.....
    I can see in your position as a young woman how exciting it could be for you....well done you for knowing exactly what you want and not being ashamed of it....