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the best way to come out to my parents

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by crystaltriforce, Dec 7, 2008.

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  1. crystaltriforce

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    i want to come out to my family but i don't know how and it's killing me that i can't. i tried waiting for when the conversation was steered to anything that can be related to sexuality but for some reason i just couldn't speak, even when my mom asked if i "liked girls". i don't know what but i think my parents are homophobic because when homosexuality is even mentioned their voice takes on a tone that sounds like disgust, and all that matters is that my parents accept me. (i don't give a crap what my siblings think; they have been judgeing everything else about me all my life.)
    but back to the topic does anyone have any ideas?
     
    #1 crystaltriforce, Dec 7, 2008
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    Quite a few people here have come out via a letter to their parents.
    If this sounds okay to you,just make sure you let them know
    that you're the same person you always were and that if they
    want to talk about it or have questions,you're willing.
    No matter what you decide,I wish you the best of luck.
     
    #2 Mickey, Dec 7, 2008
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    that's a good idea.
     
    #3 crystaltriforce, Dec 7, 2008
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    I am planning to come out to my parents after the new year and going to tell them by a letter. I thing if I tried to verbalize it I may breakdown halfway though it. I have already written it and just waiting to git it to them. Good luck in what ever you do!
     
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    do you guys think it's a good idea to come out over email?
     
    #5 crystaltriforce, Dec 7, 2008
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    I plan to type it out and hand it to them. Its a little more personal.
     
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    i plan to come out before new years. i want them to know as soon as possible.
     
    #7 crystaltriforce, Dec 7, 2008
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    i guess i'm just scared how my mom will react because she has always been the one person i know who would support me no matter what i do, and if she doesn't accept me for being bi i don't know what to do.:eusa_booh
     
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    i'm going to tell mom via email tomorrow after exams, i'll let you all know how it goes.
     
    #9 crystaltriforce, Dec 7, 2008
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    letter or note
    or be very blunt in a public place like before you leave school I'm gay , walk out the door
     
    #10 Nixon, Dec 7, 2008
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    I came out to my mother via e-mail. It gets the job done.
     
    #11 Midnight Angel, Dec 7, 2008
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    well i just sent the email to mom and i'm freaking out. what if she kicks me out of the house? what should i do? i'm scared.:tears:
     
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    Don't frett lol - no matter how much you worry now you can't change the outcome.

    Go out and do something to take your mind off things until she comes to you.

    Good luck!
     
    #13 Gumtree, Dec 8, 2008
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    AHHH! Let us know how it goes! I want to know what she says. No matter what happens, you didn't do anything wrong (*hug*) And Congratulations on doing that. I still haven't been brave enough to tell my immediate family :eek:
     
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    I told my mum via text message. Might not be the most personal way. But i was just so petrified.
    My whole family is homophobic.
    My dad cried when he found out.
    Turns out he is a gaybasher.
    So yeah.
    Mine wasn't as successful as i would have liked.

    But yours will be fine!!
     
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    i was talking to my mom and she said that she will support me no matter what. however she beleves that i am just "sexually confused" and sugested i should see a therapist to sort everything out. then she started talking about sex. i don't think it could possibly get any more akward after that point.
     
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    Just give her some time. She is probably still trying to process everything. Good Luck! I can not wait until I come out to my family.
     
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    That's great! Congratz dude!

    My mom has asked me directly if I liked girls or guys...during a layover in Hong Kong!!! To spare her a broken heart and me a VERY awkward 16 hour plane flight, I said girls :frowning2:

    Just give your mom some time! It's soo great that you got it out though man. (!)
     
    #19 Mestiz0, Dec 8, 2008
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    thank you all so much for you'r support.
     
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