Straight sex doesn't sound bad but I don't want it..?

I feel similarly actually. I think it would be fine and probably pleasurable and I have fantasised about it in the past but somehow I do not desire it like I desire sex with a girl. I feel like I used to but that now I've acknowledged my girl-loving side that that desire is just stronger and my desire for straight sex has weirdly disappeared. And as you said about "real life"; i find myself aching to touch (and such.. ) my female crushes in such a tangibke wsy compared to my make ones. So i just dont see any more why i would psrticularly want to have sex with a guy, even though i wouldnt reject it if i wss feeling it...

I really don't get it but I just stick to call if myself bisexual because I know I can be attracted to both, and trying to find myself the perfect label for these feelings would only cause me stress. Thats all the advice I can give. Just jump on the closest label and let your feelings dictate what it means to you.

 

I don't think it's weird. I used to think that way about same-sex-sex. Sometimes sex, in general, takes time to adjust to mentally and physically. (At least, that's what I've picked up from my experiences.)

 

Doesn't sound bad to me either. I think I would like it, though I'm not 100% sure. It's the made reason why I identify as mostly gay (K5).

 

Have you had any experiences with guys or girls before? It sounds to me like you haven't with a guy but might have with a girl. I think once you've experience one type especially if you're not sure about your sexuality it is a little bit of a leap before you might feel comfortable about the other, even if you really like/fancy the person. I mean, I always thought I was straight and had enjoyable experiences with guys. But now because I have recently got involved with a girl, when I think about doing stuff with a guy it feels a bit wrong? I'm sure if I'd ever thought about doing stuff with a girl before I ever had then that would have felt a bit wrong too.

 

Yep, Jt1999 is right. Whatever you don't have experience with can seem a bit wrong. Like when you first find out about straight sex, it seems a bit wrong, when you first find out about gay sex, it seems a bit wrong. If you have no experience with either, you'll be aprrehensive about both and if you only have experience with one, it will seem faaar safer than the other. Me though, I have 0 experience points in any camp haha.

 

Well, before I had any sexual experience imaging sex with any sex was hard. My first sex experience was with a guy and it was surprisingly pleasant although I can't say I was fully on board with it. Now, imaging sex with girls has become much harder while thinking about sex with a guy (friend) has become so easy. I think it is exactly because what JT1999 and SHACH are saying. In the past I have mostly gotten cold treatment from girls and my experience with guys has been so much more positive not only in terms of physicality but also feeling connected and appreciated that it is easy to think that I don't want to have sex with a girl. However, I should try and decide after that. Maybe I change my mind.

 

The thing you said about cold treatment from one gender affecting your perceived preference is just so on point, Euler. My guy crushes at my old school were not even remotely interested in even talking to me, and probably weren't even great people, just hot and my actual guy friends were not attractive to me or gay etc. Every girl crush I've had has actually been friendly with me, whether they were slightly selfish teasers or actually super nice pals who I connect with. Thus I suppose i have felt much more deeply for them and really lost interest in the seemingly futile boy chase. Never really thought about it that way. Thats a really good point for people to think about. Good one, Euler.

 

SHACH, you have no idea how glad I am to see that there is someone who is like me. I remember you told in the porn thread that you also find it annoying the faces are not shown or if the "acting" is poor and now this. Based on what I have read in here most people seem to have quite different case than me.

My crushes have been more "romantic" or "emotional" than sexual in nature. The ones that have even any major sexual component have been where I have perceived the other party having expressed sexual interest in me. Have you had the same thing?

 

I also think you've made a good point about having preference for the gender you started with. I would say that straight intimacy is very nice and, unless you're strongly homosexual, you would find it enjoyable. Same as always though it has to be with the right person.

 

I'd like to know how it feels and if I had the opportunity, I'd probably take it. But I wouldn't "feel it" the same as with another guy.

 

I personally feel more physically attracted to girls than guys, so let's say that if I could choose between a guy and a girl for a one-night stand, I'd go for a girl right away. However, now I'm dating a guy (which made me question again because I thought I was fully gay) and I enjoy straight sex (and I never thought I would), because I have a strong emotional bond with this guy.
You might be bisexual but leaning toward the gay side, or maybe you prefer to be in a relationship with girls, and that's okay. Not all bisexuals have a 50/50 preference.
And hey, I feel you about the year of confusion, 2015 was a sort of "questioning year" for me. Let's hope 2016 will be better!

 

Sure I can get all emotional and romantic with them, and get all interested in all their interests, and compliment them and buy them presents and wanna spend so much time with them and such. The girl ones more than guy ones tbh, but that's sort of for the reasons I said above. But there's still sexual attraction there haha. And it changes which one comes first. And really, do most people really not care if faces are shown and the acting is not awful in porn? They should care...